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continuing to purge

I have a small confession: I read self-help personal development books. I may have mentioned this before; it’s one of my few somewhat-embarassing, guilty indulgences. Some of them are a fantastic combination of philosophy, sociology, psychology, and spirituality, and I find all of those topics fascinating. (Some of them, of course, are horrible condescending things written by wackos. I don’t tend to read those.)

In a book with a fairly horrible title (I do recommend the author’s other works, as well), Laurence Boldt introduces the Integrated Life Matrix. I scanned it to share with you.


I find this organization of life’s pursuits and categories incredibly soothing. Everything fits. It’s all about the balance.

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Sinclair Sexsmith (they/them) is "the best-known butch erotica writer whose kinky, groundbreaking stories have turned on countless queers" (AfterEllen), who "is in all the books, wins all the awards, speaks at all the panels and readings, knows all the stuff, and writes for all the places" (Autostraddle). ​Their short story collection, Sweet & Rough: Queer Kink Erotica, was a 2016 finalist for a Lambda Literary Award, and they are the current editor of the Best Lesbian Erotica series. They identify as a white non-binary butch dominant, a survivor, and an introvert, and they live outside Seattle as an uninvited settler on traditional, ancestral, & unceded Snoqualmie land.

2 thoughts on “continuing to purge”

  1. Dylan says:

    reading “self improvement” books is nothing to be embarrassed about. it shows a sense of self awareness and the desire to improve and grow. i am absolutely down with these types of books too, and they have proved very useful in organizing my life, getting into the right types of relationships, seeing my goals materialize.

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