Hi! I’m Sinclair.
I’m a queer butch, feminist dominant, identity theorist, strap-on expert, and a poet. Since 2006, I’ve been writing here about power dynamics, kink, personal empowerment, and activism. I love the intricacies of reconciling feminism and BDSM practices, and of getting and keeping a really satisfying sex life. No—not just satisfying, but mind-blowing. Oh, and I write lots of dirty erotica, too.
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What’s Happening in March (and Beyond): Best Lesbian Erotica Readings!
I'm so excited to share this book with you!
Virtual reading with Glad Day Books, Toronto
Sunday, 28 February, 2021 4-5:30pm PT / 7-8:30pm ET
Details on Facebook
Online reading of stories from Best Lesbian Erotica of the Year Volume 5, published by Cleis Press, Hosted by Glad Day Books, Toronto.
Zoom login information:
https://zoom.us/my/gladday
PW: 1970
Hosted by Glad Day Books, Toronto
Readers include:
Amy Butcher, GB Lindsey, Kathleen Lamothe, K.J. Drake, and Sinclair Sexsmith
Free! Please buy the book! Support your local bookshop or get it online.
Readers include (click for bios):
Best Lesbian Erotica of the Year Volume 5 – Virtual Reading with Queer Leather Happy Hour, San Francisco
5 March, 2021, 7-8pm PT / 10-11pm ET
Details on Facebook
LIVE QUEER EROTICA READING! Listen to steamy tales by award-winning smut editor Sinclair Sexsmith, plus author readings by their latest edited collection of queer storytellers: : Mary Burns, Kiki DeLovely, G.B. Lindsay, Tobi Hill-Meyer, and K.J. Drake. Zoom login info will be posted day-of.
Zoom login: https://us02web.zoom.us/j/89574896092?pwd=NnE4b3lveDljSU5jc0VTUVR0dkYyUT09
Virtual Queer Leather Happy Hour will host its usual monthly 1st Fridays social time, as well as a breakout room throughout the event in case anyone wants to simply chat in the "SF Eagle back porch" as before. This is a queer-dedicated space. Basic Zoom instructions and expected Code of Conduct will be posted on this page for reference. The event is free to attend, and if you're in a good place to, please consider donating to our usual host bar: the SF Eagle, at https://www.gofundme.com/f/sf-eagle
Readers include (click for bios):
Title Stepdown
Saturday, March 13, 2021, 5-6pm PT / 8-9pm ET
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rife & I officially step down from our leather title! Official description: "Come reflect on one of the wildest title years we could never have imagined, and could never have gotten through without you. We'll have (byo) snacks, a quick video, and maybe do a few icebreaker games. No long speeches, we promise. Just sharing fond memories and making new ones with some of our favorite folks (that would be you!)." It would mean a lot to have y'all there to celebrate with me.
Seducing Your sub: How to Create Erotic Tension and Keep Your sub Coming Back For More with Marla Renee Stewart
Thursday, March 18, 2021 6:30-8:30pm PT / 9:30-11:30pm ET
RSVP on Crowdcast
We've been producing D/s webinars each month for the past year as part of our title year, and this will be the last one. Out with a bang!
Description: If you've been in the D/s world, you know that some subs can be finnicky on their search for the right Dominant. Finding the sub that works for you takes patience, but most of all it takes the Dominant to pick up on the right cues that would draw the sub in. In this workshop, you're going to understand how to use seduction to your advantage to get your subs to not only do what you want when you want it, but for them to beg you for more attention and more erotic play time. Whether you are a beginner or a professional, this will help you run the long (and successful) game when it comes to your kinky endeavors.
And coming up after that ...
Best Lesbian Erotica of the Year Volume 5 – Virtual Reading with Charis Books, Atlanta
March, 2021 Date TBA
Best Lesbian Erotica of the Year Volume 5 – Virtual reading at International Ms Leather/Bootblack
Sometime during the IMsLBB online event, 16-18 April, 2021
Details TBA
Here’s what else new & exciting:
Dirty Stories
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