What’s Happening in November (& Beyond)

Suddenly, there is a LOT going on! Here are the upcoming events for November, and a few important dates to save in the next few months. I’m still looking for blogs who want to participate in a blog tour for the new Best Lesbian Erotica release, sign up here.

Polyamory & Power Dynamics, workshop with Raven & Joshua

Thursday, November 12, 5:30-7:30pm PT
RSVP on (and hosted on) Crowdcast

The practice of polyamory – multiple honest nonmonogamous relationships, especially long-term ones – has its own community, proponents, and theories, some of which are incompatible with deliberately inegalitarian relationships. On the other hand, people in power dynamics often try to leap directly into polyamory with no concept of how to make it work … and we’ve all seen their failures littering the Internet forums. How can we combine these relationship styles in ways that are functional and sustainable, and not become just another statistic? What can we learn from the decades of polyamory research, and how do we adapt it in a way that is right for us as masters and slaves? Come with your questions!

Leather Reign Conference

Saturday, November 14 – Sunday, November 15
All the info is at leatherreign.org | Register here

“Leather Reign is a Leather/BDSM/kink conference located in the Seattle/Puget Sound region of Washington.
Expect 2 incredible days of exploring why we do what we do, and what is in it for us? This may involve some technique, but the focus will be on WHY it is done and less of the how.”

Ownership As A Spiritual Path
3-4:30pm PT
Some s-types describe their journey as being “monks for love.” Some owners are worshipped. Considering all of the protocol, ritual, symbology, traditions, and ordeals that we pursue, there are many parallels to spiritual traditions. Let’s talk about ways a spiritual path can be incorporated as a model or tool to strengthen your dynamic, and ways that you both can find spiritual value and deep soul satisfaction on the path of your relationship, no religion required! We will share our personal experiences with Buddhism, Energetic embodiment, Christiantiy of many flavors, and spiritual animism, and welcome discussion from the group’s diverse belief systems. Consensual total authority exchange is truly a vocation; for those of us who feel the pull, it can be a powerful engine for spiritual growth and meaning.

Dirty Queer, Virtual Edition

Saturday, November 14, 6-8:30pm PT / 9-11:30pm ET
Facebook event
Run by Sossity Chiricuzio, Dirty Queer is a Queer/Trans curated open mic & journal focused on sex/sexuality/gender, prioritizing BIPOC, disabled, trans & otherwise marginalized folks. Open mic held online (it used to be in Portland, Oregon), w/ ASL interpreting. About this particular online edition, Sossity wrote: “Like so many of you, I have been socially isolating, and am sorely missing the magic of gathering with queers and celebrating our many flavors of weird and wonderful. Also like so many of you, I have been missing the particular magic of Dirty Queer that we made together. So let’s join together and make that beautiful freaky magic and set the cyber space alight!”

International Ms. Leather / International Ms. Bootblack Telethon

Saturday, November 14, 9am-9pm PT
Fetlife event | Held on www.imslbb.org

Feminist Erotica Happy Hour with Sinclair

Friday, November 20, 3:30pm PT / 6:30pm ET
Facebook

Live on their Facebook page, I’ll be joining the folks from the Feminist Erotica podcast for a chat about all kinds of things. Come join. The Feminist Erotica podcast explores feminist representations of desire. We also showcase sexy stories that stay true to your values and help you find more sultry reads.

BUTCH Voices Virtual Community Gathering

Facebook
Saturday, November 21, 12pm PT / 3pm ET

This isn’t my event, but I love BUTCH Voices and if you want some MOC hangouts, you should definitely attend.

BUTCH Voices is inviting you to an online community gathering space where butches and masculine of center folks, and our allies can connect virtually! During this pandemic we see the need for community now more than ever. We hope that you and your families are as healthy and safe as you can be. We send our gratitude and appreciation to the front line workers helping to keep us healthy and safer, keeping our food systems going, providing mutual aid, and all of the ways that we are supporting our communities during this time. We send love out to those who have lost loved ones to COVID-19, and those navigating healthcare. We want to do virtual community gatherings periodically. So tell us what content you’d like to see happen. Send us your topics! Email [email protected] with your suggestions. These virtual events will have butch/MoC folks at the center of the conversations. Allies are welcome and encouraged to attend. Please be mindful about the time and space we each take up during the event.

Also, you may want to save the date …

December 8, 2020 – Best Lesbian Erotica of the Year Volume 5 is released!
January 8-10, 2021 – Holy Fire Conference, focused on spirituality & power dynamics
January 29, 2021 – The Feminist Erotica podcast is hosting a book club for Best Lesbian Erotica Volume 5
February 19-21, 2021 – FLAME Conference, general kink with a focus on power dynamics
March, 2021 – we officially step down from our title! There will be parties.

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I keep the events we’re doing updated in this calendar.

If you want to follow this calendar in your own calendar program, you can use this link.

Got any events we should know about? Leave the info in the comments.

Announcing: Table of Contents for Best Lesbian Erotica of the Year Volume 5 (2021)

I have been eagerly waiting to share with you the work from the next Best Lesbian Erotica volume — and I can’t, yet, because it doesn’t come out until December — but here is the table of contents!

Here’s the book write-up:

Testing the boundaries of pleasure and pain… To be so full of longing you ache for release… Coming to climax without a single touch.

The fifth volume of the Best Lesbian Erotica of the Year anthology series explores and expands on the very definition of eroticism with a diverse mix of queer, non-binary, trans, and polyamorous #ownvoices that will have you quivering with delight and wondering what more you can explore—no matter how you identify. More than just steamy sex stories, this volume offers the quiet sexuality of emotional security, the overwhelming thrill of discovering something new, and a tale for every taste—from vanilla to kink to strap-ons and sodomy.

Now more than ever, it is crucial to see unique, underrepresented viewpoints across the literary spectrum. Award-winning author and editor Sinclair Sexsmith delivers in an anthology that is both tender and tantalizing, emotional and evocative.

Here’s the Table of Contents for Volume 5!

1. Max and the Things I Couldn’t Say — Heart
2. On a Hot and Humid Night — Mx. Nillin Lore
3. Whatever I Want, Whatever I Say — Sinclair Sexsmith
4. Pure Energy — Giselle Renarde
5. Three Options — Nicole Field
6. Blood — Anita Cassidy
7. A Night Out — Amanda N
8. The Supplicant — Michelle Osgood
9. Torrent and Tumult — June Amelia Rose
10. The One Penis Policy — Tobi Hill-Meyer
11. The Summer of Strap-Ons and Sodomy — Rain DeGrey
12. Strand of Pearls — Mary Burns
13. Restraint — Kiki DeLovely
14. I Wouldn’t Be the Same Without Her — Kathleen Lamothe
15. Yes Ma’am — K.J. Drake
16. The Estranged — GB Lindsey
17. Owning a Cock — Amy Butcher

I love each & every of these stories. They are very different from each other, but the thread through is a personal empowerment through playing with sexuality, eroticism, power, and BDSM.

Can’t wait for you to read the whole thing!

Call For Submissions: Best Lesbian Erotica of the Year Volume 6 (2022), due October 31, 2020

Editor: Sinclair Sexsmith

Publisher: Cleis Press

Deadline: October 31, 2020 (earlier encouraged)

Payment: $50 and 1 copy of the book within 90 days of publication

Rights: non-exclusive right to publish the story in this anthology in print, ebook and audiobook form. Authors will retain copyright to their stories.

Sinclair Sexsmith is editing the next volume of Best Lesbian Erotica, and is looking for your best sexy stories about queer women.

Representations of queer women, non-binary, and trans women’s sexuality that are not as frequently seen — with ability, race, ethnicity, class, neurodiversity, ace-spectrum, age, religion, or other marginalized viewpoints — are particularly of interest.

Writers who have not previously published are encouraged. Writers of color, particularly Black writers, are encouraged.

#Ownvoices stories are encouraged and will be prioritized.

The anthology is not limited to certain kinds of sex acts. “Vanilla,” BDSM, fetish, ace, and all kinds of sensual and sexual expression are welcome. I will be looking for a wide variety of sexual identities: mommy, mistress, sir, puppy, girl, servant, etc.

I will consider a few reprints published in 2020, but prefer unpublished stories. No simultaneous submissions. No poetry or speculative fiction.

Up to two submissions per author. Stories should be between 2500-4000 words.

Submissions in English required; American English not required, but we will edit it to be in American English eventually. If there are cultural specifics, we’ll work on how to translate them into American English during the editing process.
 
Characters must be a minimum of 18. All stories have to be within legal guidelines, including no incest, beastiality, necrophilia, consent violations, or other illegal acts. If something illegal happens in the story, it should be within a context where it’s understood it’s illegal in some way. 
 
No specific requirements for formatting the text, but the closer you can be to standard publishing formatting, the better for us during the editing process.  
– legible, standard font (times, arial) in a typical size (12ish)
– no underlines or bold, use italics for emphasis
– no specifications for indentations & spacing, as long as it’s legible. I usually do no indents at the beginning of paragraphs and double space after paragraphs, but the final manuscript will be set up by editors at Cleis Press based on their specifications. 

Please submit your work through this Google form: http://bitly.com/blev6

If it does not work to submit your story via this form, please contact Sinclair directly at [email protected] with the subject line “Best Lesbian Erotica submission” and include your story as an attachment in .doc, .docx or .rtf format (not PDF). Include the story title, your legal name, pseudonym (if applicable), 75-100 word bio, whether the story was previous published or not, email address, phone number, and mailing address.

Queries are welcome; contact [email protected].