- You'll Get What's Coming
- Beg For It: A Collaborative Quickie Guest Post by Writing Spicy authors
- Show Me How Bad You Want Me
- Don't Swallow
- [Video] Sugar & Spice: Spicy Queer Kink Erotica Showcase
- [Video] Spicy Showcase at Drunken! Careening! Writers!
- [Video] Spicy Showcase at Smut Peddlers
- Sinclair's 2024 Calendar
- The Bradley Shower Pole
- "Positivity! Support! Honesty! Gusto!": What People Say About the Writing Spicy Online Erotica Writing Group
- 10 Days of Writing Spicy Prompts
- Check out the new queer porn site, QueerCrush
- Best of 2022 on Sugarbutch
- Sinclair's 2023 Calendar
- Graduation
- Switch
- At Daddy's Feet, Guest Post by rife
- Is Kink (Ever) Wholesome?
- Tulips & Trust
- How Are Daddy/boy and Daddy/girl Different?
- Best Lesbian Erotica - Queer Kink Erotica Reading Video
- All Villain, All Bully, Guest Post by Kel Hardy
- The Right One
- All Of This, Guest Erotica by A. L. Brooks
- The Lineage & Ancestry of Queer Kinky Erotica
- On Developing A Writing Habit
- Some Core Writing Spicy Philosophies
- Write the Erotica You Want to Read In the World
- The Golden Hour, by Anna Sansom
- Sun-Baked Deck
- Three Ways to Improve Your Erotic Stories
- Poll: Which one of these erotica stories would you most want to read?
- Happy New Year
- Best of 2021 on Sugarbutch
- Titrate My Urges, Chapter 1 (continued)
- Writing Erotica Is Activism: An Interview With Me on Erotica Writing
- Is that even true?
- Announcing: The Table of Contents for Best Lesbian Erotica of the Year Volume 6
- Titrate My Urges: Chapter 1 (Untitled, Unpublished Novel Excerpt)
- Cover Reveal: Best Lesbian Erotica of the Year Volume 6
- The Relationship Smorgasbord
- Monogamous People Should Read This, Too: Polysecure by Jessica Fern (Review)
- Try This Sex Toy Combo: Clit Pump + Transthetics Joystick
- This Isn't New
- Nonbinary Honorific Terms for a Dominant
- Lex Isn't Just For Dating, It's Also For Tenderqueers (and Me, and Maybe You)
- Milk, Part Two
- Cinnamon Breakfast, Guest Post by Callie Gibson
- Moving, Tumult, Settling In
- Five Steps To Getting Your Erotica Published
- Five Great Kink Podcasts You Should Be Listening To Already
- D/s Protocol Ideas For You To Try
- Milk, Part One
- How To Use Check Ins In Your D/s Relationship
- Crave
- Personal Journal on Femme Desire and Nonmonogamy
- Tools For Stepping Up D/s
- Could I Get A Ride, Guest Post by Betty Shade
- Climax, Guest Post by rife
- Your regular life continues after this brief interruption
- Someone Else Writes Worse Erotica Than You, I Promise
- Sea Water
- Cock Confidence: The RodeoH Slyder (Review)
- Kink 101: Books, Websites, and Other Resources for Someone New to Kink
- Listen To Your Skin: Erotica Reading [Recording]
- Ten Erotic Films Better Than 50 Shades of Grey
- What I'm Reading, including Felix Ever After
- The Aftermath
- Creating a D/s Training Wheel
- Let’s Watch a Porno, Guest Post by Louise Kane
- Stepdown Video: "So How Was Your Title Year?"
- Best Lesbian Erotica Volume 5 is a Lammy Finalist!
- Ostara: Happy Spring
- Stepping Down
- 6 Kink Books by Black Authors
- Fearless Relationship Inventory, Guest Post by rife
- Visiting Glacier Ice Caves (Photos)
- 9 Ideas to Support Your D/s During Hard Times
- Leather Community During a Pandemic
- In Search of A Magic Carpet Sex Toy
- Preparation
- Survival Tools for a Pandemic
- Future Vision, But Make It Queer
- Meeting Jason, Guest Post by Marcel Yeung
- Ode, Part 1
- Content Notes for Best Lesbian Erotica of the Year Volume 5 (Warning: Spoilers)
- There Are Gifts In the Dark. Happy Solstice
- Countdown to Best Lesbian Erotica of the Year, Volume 5!
- Further Adventures in Photos
- I Said Hey, What's Going On
- Is "Butch" A Nonbinary Identity?
- DIY: Create Your Own Fist Dildo
- Sex Rituals During COVID Times & Revisiting the BDSM Checklist
- Ahead of the Curve: The Documentary Film About Curve Magazine
- Happy #InternationalPronounDay!
- I vote in every election because ...
- Announcing: Table of Contents for Best Lesbian Erotica of the Year Volume 5 (2021)
- Sheltering in September
- Sobriety Sestina During COVID-19
- Are Ejaculating Dildos Even A Thing? Yes!
- This Is A Conversation About Duties: On M/s Language
- Sixteen
- The First Time With A Girl
- I'm Voting Biden/Harris, But I Still Want A Dyke For President
- Poem for My Name
- The Impact of M/s Language: Voices from the Community
- On Representing the M/s Title
- leaping into something new
- And What A Celebration It Was
- Welcome
- On Stepping Away From M/s Language
- 6 Black Educators to Follow & Support on Patreon
- Breath as a Healing Tool During COVID-19 with M'kali-Hashiki
- Cock Confidence: The Sacred Act of Going Inside Someone Else's Body
- why write about sex during times like this
- First Time With Daddy, Guest Post by Kimberly Dark (Excerpt from The Daddies)
- Sheltering 1: Things I Have Learned
- Will Anyone Else Want Strap-On Sex the Way I Do?
- Hello, It Is Spring, Let's Bloom (Playlist)
- Looking at a Title Year
- Rest Is Important, You're Right It Isn't Fair, and Other Things I Need To Hear Right Now
- Some Notes That May Turn Into A Sex Manifesto
- Take My Whip: Fantasy Date Night, Guest Post by rife
- Countdown: Seven
- "There Are Others Like You:" Interview with Rowdy, rife's Puppy
- On Receiving a Full Scholarship to College, Twenty Years Later
- I'm Still Not Tired of Your Company, aka A Valentine
- Six Weeks Out
- Feeling Yourself: Getting Acquainted With Your New Strap On
- Ready to Make Waves: Two Recent Inspirational Leather Speeches
- Resources For Sex & Chronic Pain
- Let It All Go, Boy: Part Two, Guest Post by Sonya Bolus
- Cartography of Control: A Map For Areas of Dominance & Submission
- A Bullet-Point Decade
- There’s A New Packer & Stroker From New York Toy Collective: Meet Jack
- Let It All Go, Boy: Part One, Guest Post by Sonya Bolus
- What Got Me Through the Worst of It
- I'm Struggling with Thanksgiving
- No, You Don't "Get" Racism Because You Are Oppressed, Too
- Striking Evolution
- Five Essential Apps for Sex Bloggers
- Harvest weekend photo essay, and congratulations Ms Sacramento Leather 2019!
- Just personal things. Hi.
- Down by the River, Guest Post by Anna Sansom
- These Eight Years
- Touch, Devour, Swallow
- A Good Beating, Guest Post by Xan West
- Bi-Erasure, Community, and Other Thoughts on Bisexual Visibility Day
- Table of Contents for Best Lesbian Erotica Volume 4 (2020)
- On Inheriting Leather
- Writing About D/s Online
- Plus Size Pegging: A Longer Dildo & Comfortable Harness
- What Are You Going To Do With That Women, Gender, Sexuality Studies Degree?
- Disrupt the Cycle
- Methods of Control in Your D/s Relationship: Defining Rules, Tasks, Protocol, and Ritual
- Decks, Books, & Spreads: Getting Started with a Tarot Practice
- Two
- Spirolic Breaking
- Kinky Summer Camps You Should Definitely Attend
- Under Water
- A Moaning Mess of a Girl, Guest Post by Kiki DeLovely
- The Singular “They” Is Grammatically Correct, Dammit
- Frisson, Guest Post by Kathleen Delaney-Adams
- Dear (Cis) People Who Put Your Pronouns On Your "Hello My Name Is" Name Tag
- Fundamentals of the Protocol Game
- Are You Game? Guest Post by Dilo Keith
- On the Verge
- A Poem About Worship & Worth
- integrating the past
- Making Your Strap-On Part of Your Body
- An Enthusiastic Review of the Cowgirl Sex Machine
- Ariadne's Thread, Guest Post by Jean Roberta
- You Asked Me About My Fantasies, Guest Post by Kitty Faut
- Cock Confidence: Uncut with Movable Foreskin
- Whatever I Want, Whatever I Say
- The Outermost Bracket™: A Theory on D/s and Non-Monogamy
- I Know Where You Live, Guest Post by Raki Kopernik
- Creating a Submissive Training Plan for Yourself
- Show Me You Want It
- Stone Femmes Should Be Called Diamonds, Guest Post by R. Magdalen
- I Want To Be Brutal.
- I Want to Tell You
- Getting Wood, Guest Post by Morris Danielson
- Trauma Is Your Teacher
- Things I Didn't Know I Didn't Know, Part Two
- wake up
- untitled journal entry about shock and other things
- Cock Confidence: Zoro, by Perfect Fit
- Forgiveness
- Things I Didn't Know I Didn't Know: Part One
- She Is There In the Bed
- A Poem for the Closing of Workshops
- The Mystical and The Profane
- Introducing Erotix: Literary Journal of Somatics
- Back to One, Guest Post by Kit McGuire
- Kintsugi
- persuasion & gaslighting
- knife of wands
- purple
- four: mental power
- Writing Ourselves Whole: Transformation, Healing, & Queer Sex
- stalking prey
- thirty nine
- getting back to discipline
- king of disks
- oracle cards
- sitting with it
- Back Seat Brat, Guest Post by Jack Stratton
- "the most favorable of cards"
- The End of Innocence, Guest Post by Guy New York
- instructions on not giving up
- please tell me
- A Ten Year Retrospective: Portraits by Bill Wadman
- Looking for a good dirty read? Here ya go
- study: the first time I felt
- this is what she told me to say
- an exercise in courage
- Daddy in the Morning
- Liquid Smoke
- The Personal Blog Is Not Dead
- family portrait
- #metoo
- "BDSM educator leader lecture"
- ten years
- for giving
- Which harnesses work with double dildos?
- sixteen things
- ice cream & whiskey, see you in December
- Advice to Myself
- My Dog, Guest Post by A. Cassell
- We got married.
- "Even between the closest people infinite distances exist."
- Review: Sam STP from New York Toy Collective
- give up
- #SexEdPornReviews: Episode 235 of Crash Pad Series, Featuring Mr Pink and Unkle Daddy
- nonline
- That Moment When My Dad Reaches Out His Hand For Me To Grasp
- high vs low
- like a redwood tree
- rose
- The Best Uncut Strap-Ons: Uncut #1 by Tantus & Ellis by New York Toy Collective
- Dear President Obama
- "Your idols are dead and your enemies are in power."
- Please., Guest Post by Jade A. Waters
- new, new, new
- November was a fuck of a month, wasn't it?
- You can be your strongest self AND a power bottom
- Hard Handed Femme, Guest Post by Dena Hankins
- unapologetic demanding dominance
- three months
- Femming the Strap-On, Guest Post by Artemisia FemmeCock
- How I Became A Daddy
- Five Blow Jobs on the Me & My Boi blog tour
- diagnosis & meds
- strong little room
- green-eyed monster
- learning to stop leaning
- something new every day
- the contract amendment
- couple's therapy #1
- resolve
- Review: 4-in-1 Natural—Pack, Pee, Play, & Pleasure from FreeToM Prosthetics
- Tiger Stripes, Guest Post by Kyle Jones
- A Personal History of Best Lesbian Erotica
- Introducing View From The Top: My BDSM Journey
- Review: Finally, an Ejaculating Dildo: The Semenette
- 14 ways of looking at New York
- Lying Down, Guest Post by Kathleen Delaney-Adams
- On the Importance of Queer, Women Centered, & Feminist Sex Toy Shops (Map)
- Microagressions & Misgendering: "Right this way, ladies."
- A toy to do with as I please.
- Read These Books! (Perhaps Some Holiday Gift Ideas?)
- The Best Queer Sex Blogs
- Review: What's the Best Wand Vibrator?
- Careful. Guest Post by Kiki DeLovely
- The Exact Right Word: National Coming Out Day and Chosen Identities
- The Tender Sweet Young Thing, Guest Post by Xan West
- "Submission is mine to define for myself." Interview with Miss Piggy
- 7 Tips For Flirting As A Submissive
- "I found a sense of clarity about my path:" Interview with Shiris
- You'll Never Find the Perfect Dominant
- Little Liar, Guest Post by Rebekah Weatherspoon
- Review: Carter, The (Big!) Bendable Dildo by New York Toy Collective
- Moving In (Lauren & Beck #3)
- Pancakes (Lauren & Beck #2)
- The Night Everything Changed (Lauren & Beck #1)
- Just This Next Thrust (Angie & Fern #4)
- Morning After (Angie & Fern #3)
- Tangled (Angie & Fern #2)
- Honeysuckle & Leather (Angie & Fern #1)
- Calibrate, Guest Post by Jen Cross
- The Brute and the Brat (Bean & Mickey #3)
- Bath Time (Bean & Mickey #2)
- Daddy's Belt (Bean & Mickey #1)
- Getting Grown, Guest Post by BD Swain
- Satiated (Mistress Elise Winter & morgan #3)
- 100 Bedtime Strokes (Mistress Elise Winter & morgan #2)
- The Bootblack Boy (Mistress Elise Winter & morgan #1)
- Hunger, Guest Post by Maria See
- DJ's Birthday Gangbang (Kai & DJ #4)
- Stone Grief (Kai & DJ #3)
- Taking It (Kai & DJ #2)
- Cruising in the Woods (Kai & DJ #1)
- The Last Night (Asher & Jesse #5)
- Luscious & Wild (Asher & Jesse #4)
- Reduced to Expletives (Asher & Jesse #3)
- Fisting Practice (Asher & Jesse #2)
- Handling Her (Asher & Jesse #1)
- Queer Masculinity in Porn: Heavenly Spire, Stepfather's Secret, & More
- "Healing comes through sex." Sinclair Sexsmith interviews Sophia Chang
- Weight. Mouth. Rough Sex.
- Turn Your Rough Fantasies into Responsible Reality
- Follow your own Kinky Desire Map
- Things I, as a white sex educator, do to foster inclusivity in this community
- Vortex Poem, Or: What I learned these last 15 years of studying embodiment
- 10 Tips for Tops
- Long Live the Butch
- From the archives: Sexting
- The Four Stages of Topping
- Dear Tops: Say Thank You
- "I wish I could show you ... the astonishing light of your own being."
- On Gender Perception, or: Break Your Eyes Open to Genderqueers
- The Ten Sugarbutch Cock Commandments
- Collaring Ceremony, Guest Post from rife
- Do rough sex fantasies compromise your sex-positive ethics?
- Leather: A Dirty Story in Photos
- Let’s Talk About Bleeding While Butch
- Is psychological kink play "healthy"?
- I need you to take a little more for me.
- The Sugarbutch Guide to Cock Confidence: Soft Packing (Part 2)
- The Sugarbutch Guide to Cock Confidence: Soft Packing (Part 1)
- Where I Come From
- The Girl in the Red Dress (Excerpt from Sex Still Spoken Here)
- Daddy's Good Boy
- Bored Kinkster Blues
- Free download: Submissive Starter Kit
- "I know I'm submissive. But where do I start?" aka "I just read Fifty Shades of Grey and I want THAT."
- What you should know about privacy, secret identities, and kink communities
- A Little Note About Father's Day
- Review: Butt toys from Adam + Eve
- Ask Mr. Sexsmith: I'm a sub, but my partner is not a dom. What do I do?
- This week in photos: porn, pancakes, and green things.
- Two Weeks Ago in photos: California staycation
- The Identity Project: "Butch daddy poet" and "Genderqueer leather boy"
- Review: Nipple Suction Toys (via the Stockroom)
- From the archives: The most holy things I do
- April in photos, part two: IMsL, green hills hike, and some personal moments
- Fantasy, Gardens, & Politics of Butch Identity in April's Book Roundup
- This month in photos, part one: in which I turn 35 and visit Seattle
- Giveaway! Want a membership for Indie Porn Revolution? Of course you do.
- Happy Birthday, rife!
- Treehouse Poem
- Ask Mr. Sexsmith: I struggle with my feminist beliefs and my bedroom preferences ... help!
- Vulnerability is a challenge
- The Longest Running Queer Porn Site, Courtney Trouble's Indie Porn Revolution, is the April Feature
- From the archives: You're Fucking Mine
- March Book Roundup: Sex, sex, and more sex
- This week in photos: That green spring color
- The Beautiful Permission
- Ask Mr. Sexsmith: How Do I Use My Girlfriend for My Pleasure?
- Counting Down
- This week in photos: Playing tourist in SF
- Review: Aneros Evi G-Spot Massager
- "And bowing not knowing to what"
- When I'm getting off
- To All the Tops Who Are Afraid to Make a Move
- This week in photos: Yosemite & back
- This week in photos: Snow, mostly
- It's Valentine's Day, so here's some Desert Island Toys
- February Feature: Crash Pad Series & strap-on queer porn scenes you gotta see
- Is genderqueer (or butch) a stepping stone to transitioning?
- This week in photos: freakish Bay Area winter
- Devouring Magic: January Book Roundup
- Why A Wrestler Will Beat A Boxer Every Time
- How I make my boy do the dishes
- The Great Reader Mini-Interview, Part Eight: Creating an Active Fantasy Life, It's Okay to Be Butch, and "You're Fucking Gay"
- The Threat of Folding In
- Resiliance and Rebuilding: 2013 in Books, Music, and Writings
- The Great Reader Mini-Interview, Part Seven: The Journey, Smut, and Black Tee Shirts
- Gender, Poetry, and Smut: Current Recommended Reads
- The Great Reader Mini-Interview of 2013, Part Six: Stay for the Smut
- Fragments
- Why Lesbian Erotica is Activism
- Hole Hunger
- Ask Mr. Sexsmith: Tomboi vs RodeoH brief-style harness?
- Coming Out Genderqueer: An Open Letter to My Family & Friends
- Review: Rug Beater Paddle, independent toy maker on Etsy
- The Great Reader Mini-Interview of 2013, Part 5: In which you recommend Stone Butch Blues & Fried Green Tomatoes, and give good advice
- Video: Sinclair reads Five Blow Jobs (And oh yeah, hi)
- A poem I've been writing for eighteen months
- Review: Bondage cuff and bow tie by Rand Leather
- How things start to melt open
- Review: Love Bump, aka Shilo's Balls by New York Toy Collective
- Big Book of Orgasms: Blog Tour!
- Your Body Remembers
- How to Chomp: Erotic Biting for Pleasure & Pain
- The Great Reader Mini-Interview, Part Four: "Shut up and get hit," Communion, and fun erotica
- Review (& Photos!): Aslan Leather TG Chest Harness
- The Great Reader Mini-Interview, Part Three: Personal accountability & self reflections, Kink, and Do Your Research
- I want more.
- The Great Reader Mini-Interview, part two
- The Great Reader Mini-Interview, part 1: National Fisting Day, embracing gender complexities, and more
- To the femmes on whom I've crushed this past year
- Making Peace: in which I (attempt to) explain what happened over these last eighteen months
- Making Peace #21
- Making Peace #20
- Making Peace #19
- Ask Mr. Sexsmith: What happens to the stuff on the anal toys when you boil them?
- Ask Mr. Sexsmith: First time with a girl
- Two years with Rife
- Making Peace #17
- Making Peace #16
- Making Peace #14
- Making Peace #13
- Five Blow Jobs
- Ask Mr. Sexsmith: Help! I want a decent pack 'n play cock!
- Making Peace #12
- Making Peace #11
- Making Peace #10
- I quit.
- What It Means
- Making Peace #7
- Making Peace #6
- Making Peace #5
- Ask Mr. Sexsmith Anything: What words compliment a butch lover?
- Making Peace #4
- Making Peace #3
- The end of the great northern road trip (aka the end of last month in photos)
- Making Peace #2
- Making Peace #1
- It's all still disorienting
- Late July in photos: Albuquerque & Jemez travels
- Review: Jam Body Tank, aka Compression Tank, aka Faux-Binder
- Gaping Yawp
- The biggest holiday (and the last few days) in Juneau (aka last week in pictures part one)
- The fields of wildflowers were stunning. (aka This week in photos part two)
- Mostly? The beach (aka this week in pictures)
- Video Poems: "Gender Architecture" and "The Right One"
- Dominance & Power with Responsibility
- Little hometown adventures: Hiking, whale watching, beer tasting (aka this week in pictures)
- Curfew (Excerpt)
- The first week in Juneau and the Northern Exposure kink conference in Anchorage (aka this week in pictures)
- Northern Exposure Kink Conference in Anchorage, AK! And: Judging the International Ms. Leather Contest
- I ran over a robin
- Camping through BC & the arrival in Alaska (aka This Week In Pictures)
- Beautiful & horrible: Cheryl's book won the Lammy
- After three states, a pause in Seattle. Now, on to the great Alaska highway (aka this week in pictures)
- Exciting things from last week! and also, ALASKA OR BUST!
- On Stabilizing and Transformation
- Writing your story is "an investment in one’s self," and more from Amber Dawn
- Stardust and Sunshine, Sundust and Starshine
- Transformational experiences and why I'm not in New York this weekend
- Whatever I tell you to do
- Shadow Comforts
- Let's have some shots of joy, shall we?
- Cornea (My Father's Eyes)
- A little more of the truth
- This is how we wake up.
- Rife's Bow Tie Birthday Party
- Seven years ago, I started this project named Sugarbutch
- Knowland, Oakland
- Closer.
- Trans Women Belong at Smith, BUTCH: Not Like the Other Girls, and Lots of Other Things To Tell You About
- A Dirty Excerpt from Carrie's Story [Blog Tour]
- Carrie's Story, Slow Surrender, and Other Things I've Been Devouring To Distract Myself
- Review: Shilo, the Bendable Silicone Packing Cock by NY Toy Collective
- "One True Thing," Girlyman's Tylan's Solo Debut
- Review: Leather Ever After edited by Sassafras Lowrey (book)
- Back on the Path
- Open Relationship Mini Interview with Aida: Exercise the Love Muscle
- Open Relationship Mini Interview with Sassafras Lowrey: "I live the queer life I’ve always dreamed of"
- Open Relationship Mini Interview with Nayland: "I finally am having the sorts of relationships that I’ve wanted all my life"
- Open Relationship Mini Interview with Katrina: People Are Adventures
- Open Relationship Mini Interview with Charlie Glickman: "Being poly doesn't make you more evolved"
- What Dyke Looks Like: Photographer Kristy Boyce is Visiting NYC
- Open Relationship Mini Interview with Alphafemme: I Create My Own Sense of Security and Safety
- Open Relationship Mini Interview with Roxy: In Love With the Whole World
- Open Relationships Mini Interview with Ashley: Love is Infinite
- Open Relationship Mini Interview with Hawkin47: Freedom is Worth the Pain & Pangs of Jealousy
- Open Relationship Mini Interview with Becca Bee: Identify Needs vs Wants
- Open Relationship Mini Interview with EK: I Wish I'd Had A Manual
- Open Relationship Mini Interview with Katie: Fluidity in Long Term Relationships
- The Best Things I Wrote About Sex, Gender, & Relationships in 2012
- Open Relationship Mini Interview with Colin: Jealousy is a Pain Reaction
- Open Relationship Mini Interview with Ozy: Compersion is Seriously Excellent
- Open Relationship Mini Interview with Doodle: Assumptions, Impatience, Jealousy, Emotional Freedom
- Open Relationship Mini Interview with Parks: This is Magic, I Promise
- Open Relationship Mini Interview with Andrea Zanin: Applies to All Relationships, Not Just Poly
- Open Relationship Mini Interview with Lolita: Rules Can't Balance Out Insecurities
- Edge
- Open Relationship Mini Interview with Jack: Ridiculously Hot Kink & Sex
- Open Relationship Mini Interview with Dire: Relationship Resilience (and Sexual Variety)
- Open Relationship Mini Interview with Rory: Special Treat Lovers
- Open Relationship Mini Interview with TP: Dating is Hard
- Open Relationship Mini Interview with Marie: Keep Loving
- Inner Emotional Landscapes and the Sublimity of the West
- Open Relationship Mini Interview with Cricket: Support
- Open Relationship Mini Interview with c.: There Are Lots of Ways To Do This
- Open Relationship Mini Interview with Alex: It's Okay To Have Feelings
- Open Relationship Mini Interview with Deserthooker: More Confident, Self-Assured and Grounded
- Open Relationship Mini Interview with Miranda: Act in Your Own Self-Enlightened Best Interest
- Open Relationship Mini Interview with Gina Mink: Jealousy is Normal
- Open Relationship Mini Interview with Tuesday: So Much Love
- Open Relationship Mini Interview with Dani: Know Yourself & Respect Your Instincts
- Open Relationship Mini Interview with Kyle: It Can All Change
- Open Relationship Mini Interview with Rife: "I Hear You"
- Open Relationship Mini Interview with Molly: Boundaries & A Reassurance List
- Open Relationship Mini Interview with Sara Eileen: They Shouldn't Be This Hard All the Time
- Open Relationship Mini Interview with Meredith: Six Happy Rules
- Open Relationship Mini Interview with Mysty: Advanced Relationship Studies
- Open Relationship Mini Interview with Del: Freedom & Power
- Open Relationship Mini Interview with Roma Mafia: Acknowledging the Worst Parts of Yourself
- Open Relationship Mini Interview with Spark: Free Agents
- Open Relationship Mini Interview with Yarrow: Complex Organic Poly Web
- Lifting: a little update on me, Kristen, poly, and grief
- One Year with Rife
- Thanksgiving in Texas
- Everything Is Different Now
- Being with the hurt
- Love Is Trying Anyway
- So Then There Was A Hurricane
- Fisting Day, Featuring Cyd & Essex
- To Do While Grieving List
- Review: Roving Pack by Sassafras Lowrey
- Grief. Also, Trying to Find My Awesome Place
- I don't want to tell you these things.
- Review: Lelo Tiani 2
- Gaga Feminism Giveaway! And Q&A with Jack Halberstam
- Love Letter #26
- Love Letter #25
- Dirty Filthy Nasty
- Love Letter #24
- Paws for Consideration: BDSM Mystery Scavenger Hunt Party Tomorrow in San Francisco
- The Femme Conference in Photos
- A Good Workout (Excerpt)
- See You At the Femme Conference
- How To Unlearn Patterns
- Review: TranZwear Packing Undies
- The Beat of a Second Heart
- Are You "Femme Enough" For the Femme Conference?
- Love Letter #23
- Kristen & Sinclair Answer Your Questions, Episode 3: "How Can I Be More Open About Kink?"
- Flying
- Kristen & Sinclair Answer Your Questions, Episode 2: "How To Have a Successful Threesome"
- Reconciling the Identities of Feminist & Butch Top
- The Three Minute Game
- The 24th Annual Lammys Brief Sugarbutch Recap
- Love Letter #22
- Like a Faggot
- On Bruises and Lasting Marks, Guest Post by Kristen
- Review: Aslan Leather Pleasure Harness (Customized) & Jaguar G
- Love Letter #21
- Kristen & Sinclair Answer Your Questions - Episode 1: "I Want To Be Taken"
- Love Letter #20
- Happy 29th Birthday, Kristen
- Love Letter #19
- Love Letter #18
- RodeoH Boxer Brief Harness Giveaway Winner
- The Harder She Comes edited by DL King (Book)
- Love Letter #17
- On Non-Monogamy, Guest Post by Kristen
- Recent Other Books of Note: New Works by Barbara Carrellas, Kate Bornstein, Diana Cage, & Tristan Taormino
- Review: Double Agent Dildo
- Love Letter #16
- Love Letter #15
- Love Letter #14
- Love Letter #13
- The New Album By Lindsay Fuller, "You, Anniversary"
- A Dozen Years
- Love Letter #12
- On Opening Up My Relationship with Kristen
- Love Letter #11
- A (Tragic) Beautiful Day
- Love Letter #10
- Ecstasy is Necessary! The New Book by Barbara Carrellas
- My Dad, 1951-2012
- Love Letter #9
- Love Letter #8
- Love Letter #7
- Love Letter #6
- Love Letter #5
- Love Letter #4
- A Hot Ride: Lovesong Playlist for Kristen
- Love Letter #3
- Which Side Are You On? (The New Ani Difranco Album)
- Open Thread: Empowering Femme Sources Needed
- Femme Invisibility & Beyond
- Love Letter #2
- "10 Hottest Butches of 2011" & the End of the Butch Lab Project
- Love Letter #1
- I Confess: Favorite Music from 2011
- The Pink Dress
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- Kate Bornstein's "Queer & Pleasant Danger"
- Body Hair, Pronouns, and Other Personal Gender Things I'm Figuring Out
- Third Anniversary (Bonus Photo)
- Happy Third Anniversary, Kristen
- Handprints on the Hotel Window
- Review: Sexing the Transman XXX DVD
- The Sugarbutch 2012 Holiday Gift Guide
- I Know What I Want: Introduction to Best Lesbian Erotica 2012
- Take a Tour of Kink.com in San Francisco
- School Boy Valentine
- Review: The Big Book of Pussy
- Um So Hi.
- Dear West Coast, See You Soon
- On Topping and Taking What I Want
- What is even DISCUSSED at a "femme conference"?
- Recent Sexual Assaults in My Neighborhood
- The Hanky Flower: Femme Flagging
- Coming Out
- Review: RodeoH Harness
- Getting My Feet Under Me
- Review: Taxi Volume I (DVD)
- My Business With God
- Review: Comparing Two Ejaculating Cocks
- Review: Salacious Magazine #2, Voyeurism
- The Sissy 2012 Wall Calendar
- So Then There Was That Time I Left My Dick In the Laundry ...
- The Boy at Summer Camp
- On Cheryl's Birthday, Femme Earrings, and Social Media
- Ask Me Anything: What to Wear to a BDSM Weekend?
- Review: Sheets by Vice Merchants
- Mentor Series: Tara Hardy & Her New Book, Bring Down the Chandeliers
- Review: The Tantus Realdoe
- Review: Crystal Delights Butt Plug
- Review: I'll Show You Mine (Book)
- "With My Brothers Standing By"
- Expansion & Contraction
- A Little Bit About Butch Voices, Butch Nation, and "Masculine of Center"
- Review & Giveaway: Double Panel Compression Shirt
- Ask Me Anything: How to Give Blow Jobs Without Feeling Stupid
- The Best Queer Porn: 100th Episode of Crash Pad Series
- Thinking About Bowls
- On Erotic Energy Retreat (Again)
- What I Read (For Cheryl)
- Review: A Couple STP (Stand to Pee) Devices
- Living Gender
- Best Lesbian Erotica 2012, selected & introduced by Sinclair Sexsmith
- Friday Reads: Better
- Cheryl B.
- Piercing, Waxing, & Other Body Modifications as Sex Toys
- Unsolicited Advice to a New Butch (aka The Butch Poem)
- Must See Porn: Roulette Toronto & Crash Pad #6
- Ask Me Anything: Does Your Family Read Your Blog?
- Mini Interview: Just Jess
- My Favorite Binder (More On Butch Bras)
- When "Gender Expression" Means "Masculine"
- Ask Me Anything: What To Do With Old Sex Toys?
- Ask Me Anything: Strapping On For the First Time
- Ask Me Anything: My Favorite Spanking
- Ask Me Anything: Queer Despite the Straight Relationship
- Cock Confidence: How Not To Slip Out When Strapped On
- Ask Me Anything: Strap-On Positions When Someone is Taller
- Happy 28th Birthday, Kristen!
- Mini Interview: Jiz Lee
- Babeland's New Gender Expression Category
- Returning from the Power, Surrender, and Intimacy Retreat
- Ask Me Anything: Confidence & Getting Girls Off
- What Are Some Sex Positive Words for Women?
- "The Champion Within"
- Ask Me Anything: My Favorite Smut
- Ask Me Anything: Origins of 'Sugarbutch', and Butch Identity Advice
- Ask Me Anything: Non-Cheesy “Self-Help”
- Ask Me Anything: Smut Day
- Friday Reads: More of This World Or Maybe Another
- I've returned from the Midwest!
- In Your Dreams ...
- Butch Lab's Symposium #2 is Up!
- Where Did the Week Go?
- Friday Reads: Rose: Love in Violent Times by Inga Muscio
- "I Confess" by k.d. lang and the Siss Boom Bang
- Direction, Part Two
- The Struggle for Growth
- More Mindfulness
- Tomcat's Barber Shop
- Direction
- Angie Evans: Mini-Interview
- Wendi Kali: Mini-Interview
- There Were Actually Two Porn Parties This Week ...
- Review: Taormino's Rough Sex 2 & 3 (Release Party Tonight!)
- Tobi Hill-Meyer: Mini-Interview
- Review: Belladonna's Strapped Dykes (DVD)
- Friday Reads: Lambda Lit & Publishing Triangle Awards
- Using D/s to Address Connection & Power
- On Running Away and Boundaries
- Day After
- What does ‘Genderqueer’ mean?
- Building & Rebuilding
- Dry March
- Friday Reads: Sub Rosa by Amber Dawn
- Miriam Zoila Perez: Mini-Interview
- Still Time to Contribute to Symposium #2
- AT: Mini-Interview
- Jenni Olson: Mini-Interview
- Good Girl, Bad Girl (Part Two)
- Claudia Rodriguez (aka C-Rod): Mini-Interview
- This Is ... It?
- Happy Birthday, Shine! And Recommendations For the Best Queer Porn
- “I Want To Be Fearless”
- Raquel Gutierrez: Mini-Interview
- Butch Lab Symposium #2, Feb/March 2011
- What Roses on Valentine's Day Are For
- Grace Moon: Mini-Interview
- Household Changes
- Friday Reads: Favorites from 2010
- Daddi Dice: Mini-Interview
- Getting My Cock Pierced
- The Sugarbutch Guide to Cock Confidence: Pack & Play
- Extra Sexy Valentine's Day Gift Guide
- Syd London: Mini-Interview
- Friday Reads: Gotta Have it: 69 Stories of Sudden Sex
- Ivan E. Coyote: Mini-Interview
- So, Hi. I'm Back.
- Review: Aslan Silicone Ball Gag
- Review: X-Harness
- Friday Reads: Dear John, I Love Jane
- AJ Stacy: Mini-Interview
- B. Cole: Mini-Interview
- Good Girl, Bad Girl (Part One)
- Gina Mamone: Mini-Interview
- Rachel Venning: Mini-Interview
- Adrienne “Aj” Davis: Mini-Interview
- Shelley Stefan: B is for Butch
- Chris Pureka’s New Album, How I Learned to See In the Dark
- Kyle Jones: Mini-Interview
- Joe LeBlanc: Mini-Interview
- The Illustrated Gentleman: 2011 Calendar
- S. Bear Bergman: Mini-Interview
- So Brown: Mini-Interview
- Anniversary Sale at Cocksexual
- Kelli Dunham: Mini-Interview
- Elisha Lim: Mini-Interview
- A Queer, Divine Dissatisfaction
- John Gagon: Butch Mini-Interview
- Kestryl Cael Lowery: Butch Mini-Interview
- Friday Reads: Best Lesbian Erotica 2011
- Ellis: Butch Mini-Interview
- Vittoria repetto: Butch Mini-Interview
- Emma Crandall: Butch Mini-Interview
- Butch Enough: Butch Lab Symposium #1
- Patricia “Cacahuate” Manuel: Butch Mini-Interview
- Anniversary Cufflinks
- Second Anniversary
- Friday Reads: How To Build A Fire by Erin Bried
- The "Butch Buddy" Movie
- Black Swan. Just, Wow.
- Butches with Cute Animals
- Wednesday Dec 1: Twitter Porn Party featuring Crash Pad Series
- Cocksexual: Because Everyone Can Have Fun With Cocks
- Review: Foxy Bombshell Panties
- The Kids Are All Right is Now On DVD
- The Next Porn Party: Crash Pad Series
- Friday Reads: Sex, Gender, & Erotica By Cleis Press
- Saving & Changing Lives: Scarleteen's Activism
- Early to Bed in Chicago
- Responsibilities to Ourselves and Others
- Cher Thursday
- “So, What Happened?”
- Define: Masculine of Center
- The Relaunch of Top Hot Butches
- Chains and Containment in "Black Snake Moan"
- It's That Calendar Time of Year
- Review: Tantus VIP Super Soft
- Gabrielle, Guest Star
- My Rocks Need A New Home
- Ellis's New Album "Right On Time"
- Ten Ways I Am A Gender Outlaw
- Gender Outlaws: The Next Generation
- Ask Me Anything: Being Recognized & Dreaming About Sex
- Ask Me Anything: Coming Out at Work
- Here is a story / to break your heart.
- Ask Me Anything: Becoming More Dominant
- Ask Me Anything: Standards of Beauty
- Friday Reads: Sometimes She Lets Me: Best Butch/Femme Erotica
- The Bullying Continues: Responses and News
- It Gets Better. Also ... Grief. Please #stayalive.
- What happened at the BUTCH Voices NYC Conference
- In Honor of National Sexual Freedom Day
- Review: Leather Pleasure Harness by Aslan Leather
- Review: Female Masculinity by Jack Halberstam
- Review: Stone Butch Blues by Leslie Feinberg
- On Making Sex Last: Cheerleading & Open Relationships
- Stone: Occam’s Razor
- The Retreat
- Review: Butch Is A Noun
- Upon Return & Porn Party
- Review: Love Bumper Iceberg
- Review: Dagger: On Butch Women
- I'm Off to the Desert
- Review: Talula
- Cock Confidence: Spur by Vixen Creations (Review)
- Femme Conference Begins Today! & Countdown to the Butch Voices Conferences
- On Being Left Out of Butch & Femme
- Countdown to the Femme Conference: 1 Week
- A Brief Period of Sobriety
- Stories from My Youth
- Countdown to the Femme Conference: Two Weeks
- It’s Official
- Mentor Series #2: Free Will Astrology by Rob Brezny
- The Ongoing Quest to be Sexually Fulfilled
- Define: Outsider Complex
- Review: Heart 2 Heart Blindfold
- My Take on "The Kids Are All Right"
- Sweat & Summer
- Get a Dominant to Dominate
- Review: Slick G Harness by Aslan Leather
- Review: Heart 2 Heart Cuffs
- Review: Laid: Young People's Experiences with Sex in an Easy-Access Culture (Seal Press)
- Things I’m Doing
- Review: Good Porn: A Woman's Guide by Erika Lust (Seal Press)
- On Masculinity, Mine
- Consuming Porn of Other Orientations
- Mentor Series #1: Dan Savage & the Savage Love Podcast
- Reconciling Feminism & Sadism
- I've Returned From the Rainy Pacific Northwest!
- Review: Lesbian Cowboys (Book)
- Review: Deluxe Packing Pouch
- Anal Week Wrap-Up
- Review: Silk
- BDSM is Not Abuse
- From Not Stone to Stone-ish
- On Processing & Analyzing
- Oh, hi there
- Waking Up
- Review: The G-Ki G-Spot Vibrator
- "Be a good girl and you can have all the birthday treats you deserve ... "
- Train Fantasy
- Happy 27th Birthday, Kristen!
- Tristan Butt Plug by Vixen Creations (Review)
- My Ultimate Masturbation Toys
- Morning Bondage (Review: Scalloped Cuffs & Snap Hooks)
- Review: Jimmyjane Massage Stone
- Quick Anal Interview: YOU!
- Quick Anal Interview: Erudite Hayseed
- Best Anal Scenes in Queer Porn
- Review: Please, Sir (Book) & Book Tour
- Giveaway: Pleasure Panties
- There's A Reason Why Sex Education is Radical
- Review: Moon Glass Plug, and How We Played With It
- Anal Scenes in Queer Porn with Essin' Em
- Review: The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex For Women (Book)
- Anal Scenes in Queer Porn with JD Bauchery
- Quick Anal Interview with Lissa
- Quick Anal Interview with Sophia St. James
- Quick Anal Interview with Madison Young
- Quick Anal Interview with Tawny
- Quick Anal Interview with Bailey
- Quick Anal Interview with Dylan Ryan
- Quick Anal Interview with Charlie Glickman
- Anal Sex Week Starts Today
- Review: Talk To Me Baby (VOD)
- Review: Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence (Book)
- Following Up: What's Next? Queer Activism in the South
- Spring Cleaning: Needing Sex and Space
- So What's Next?: McMillen's Fake Prom
- Is That 6" On Your Arm, Or Are You Just ... ?
- Review: Sugar High Glitter City (VOD)
- Sugarbutch + The Stockroom = <3
- Books That Changed My Life
- Spanking 101
- Lambda Literary Nominees Featuring "This One's Going to Last Forever"
- Review: The Njoy Fun Wand
- How Do I Let Go of a Past Hurt?
- Desperation & Dominance
- Love Letter #4 (Growing Pains)
- Consent Obsession
- My Hands Are My Heart (Valentine's Day)
- New Book! Sometimes She Lets Me: Best Butch Femme Erotica
- Review: Under Bed Restraints
- Lipstick Blow Job
- Review: Roulette Dirty South (DVD)
- Review: Even More Bang for Your Buck 2
- Articulating What I Need When I Need It
- My Evolving Masculinity, Part Four: Personal
- Kristen’s Homework: Will Return Soon
- Define: Spectrum Banging
- Occasional Effects of D/s
- Radical Masculinity #3: When Men Wear Skirts
- Kristen’s Homework: At the End of the Year
- Yes, No, and Consent
- Review: Midori's Expert Guide to Sensual Bondage (DVD)
- Crab Tie (Review: Red Bondage Rope)
- Kristen's Homework: Holiday Version
- Reconciling the Identities of Feminist & Butch Top
- How to Wear Red Lipstick, from How to Sew A Button Author Erin Bried
- Kristen’s Homework
- Year One With Kristen (Happy Anniversary)
- The Dirtiest Kristen Stories
- My Favorite Scenes in Porn Flicks
- Review: Black Cat G (Harness)
- Review: The Crash Pad Series: Volume 5 (DVD)
- Review: Strap On Motel (Film)
- World AIDS Day: Safer Sex, History, and Interconnectivity
- On Femme Invisibility
- Scarleteen: Help Lift Sex Ed to a Higher Plane
- Cock Confidence: Buck by Vixen Creations (Review)
- Fucking & Making Love
- Radical Masculinity: How to Make Masculinity Stop Hurting
- Fucking in Public in Liberator Lingerie
- Review: Seven Minutes in Heaven (DVD)
- Sometimes, I will never catch up ...
- Review: Post Apocalyptic Cowgirls (DVD & Streaming)
- My Evolving Masculinity, Part Three: “Daddy”
- The Nearest Exit May Be Behind You by S. Bear Bergman
- My Evolving Masculinity, Part Two: Yin & Yang
- Review: Nipple Clamps 101
- Dear Mr. Sexsmith: Packing
- Review: The Black Glove & The Elegant Spanking (DVD)
- National Coming Out Day & Matthew Shepard
- A Manifesto for Radical Masculinity (on Carnal Nation)
- Dear Mr. Sexsmith: Harnesses for Plus-Sized Women?
- Review: Sugar High Glitter City (DVD)
- Ad: Bride of Sin, Madison Young
- What's On My Mind
- Follow-up: I'd Like To Fuck Her Ass
- I'd Like To Fuck Her Ass
- Inner Kingdom
- Define: Sovereignty
- “Is it a trans characteristic to wear a cock?”: Cock-centricity and Gender Identity
- Definitions of Butch & Femme
- Review: Lonestar
- Cocks & Harnesses Recommendations
- On Getting Girls Off
- Masturbation is Great! (Review: Off With Your Head Hitachi attachment)
- The Risk it Takes to Blossom: Summer Into Fall
- Untitled
- The L Word Season Six: well, at least it’s over
- Review: Hard Love & How to Fuck in High Heels (DVD)
- My Evolving Masculinity: Part One, Introduction
- New film out soon: Steam
- Kristen reviews the Hitachi
- The Study Date
- How To Begin Playing with BDSM
- Keeping a Leather Harness Clean
- Kristen & A Spreader Bar
- Tachycardia
- Review: Liberator Throe, "a moisture-proof playscape for sex"
- "Can I come? Please?"
- Pleasurists #36: includes "The New Big Cock"
- Power, and a Pure Wand
- Review: Randy, The New Big Cock
- Pioneers, Visionaries, Safe Havens, and Glitter
- A Thousand Kisses
- Snippets
- Giveaway: the Grip boy toy
- Review: the Famous Fleshlight
- How do you get a dominant to dominate?
- Review: Reclaiming Eros (book)
- Quick Fuck in a Shadowed Corner, reprise
- Hogtied.
- Kristen’s Birthday Weekend
- Review: Crash Pad 4 (DVD)
- Define: Unthought Known
- Happy birthday, Kristen!
- Cock Confidence: Bandit by Vixen Creations
- Tee Shirt
- Becoming more myself
- Sadism, and the Study of Pain
- Let's Get Gay Married!
- Answers to some questions
- All Five Senses (Part 2)
- Bruises
- Happy Anniversary, Tristan! (and butt plug review)
- Sublimation
- What do you call your butch?
- I imagine watching you
- Holding Back
- Review: Barcelona Sex Project (DVD)
- Review: Pearl Cuffs
- Femmethology Giveaway .... Winner!
- My slutty little girl.
- A Love Letter to Femmes
- Kicking off the Femmethology blog tour!
- Her dirty talk got me off. Twice.
- On Butch Eyebrows: waxed or natural?
- Cock Confidence: The Outlaw by Vixen Creations (Review)
- The Good Kind of Unbearable
- Breath of fire
- New music from the lesbian staple
- Review: Lesbian Life: Real Sex San Francisco
- Pleasurists #20
- Clit Pumping: How to Grow
- Cock Confidence and the KinkForAll Conference
- A Resplendent Image
- Pleasurists #18
- On Butches: Coming Inside
- Great Doubt, Great Awakening
- Save About Face Theatre
- What we did on Valentine's Day
- Cock Confidence: Johnny by Vixen Creations (Review)
- Review: Jaguar Harness
- Important Calls for Support: Home Alive & Scarleteen
- Review: Bow Restraints
- All Five Senses (Part 1)
- Gendered Sources of Physical Power: Beauty vs Strength
- Define: The Do-Be-Do-Be-Do Complex
- Best Sex Toy Reviewers of 2008
- Wait for me on your knees.
- Review: Butch Jamie (film)
- Sexual Autonomy & Freedom
- Review: Pink & White's Champion
- Review: Gee Whiz ... the Hitachi Upgrade
- Rocking Chair Blow Job
- Review: Simply Sexy Leather Harness
- A Quick Fuck in a Shadowed Corner
- I woke her in the middle of the night
- Review: Leather Paddle
- Review: The Pleasure's All Mine (book)
- Gloaming
- Define: "butch in the streets, femme in the sheets"
- letter to a friend
- In response to what you want
- We're just getting started
- Review: Alumina Revolve
- Two Crash Pad Series Website Memberships - For You!
- "I'm kind of ... insatiable." My First Date with Kristen
- Special extra minutes for you from Hot Movies For Her
- Define: Courtly
- Excellent Queer/Lesbian Films
- Review: Liv vibrator
- My Father's Son
- Define: Identity Alignment Assumptions
- A girl: my future wife
- uncovering personal insecurities
- Review: Lollipop crop
- hacking my brain
- Sinclair loves Njoy
- Letter to myself: enough moping
- On Love, Post-Election
- The Girl in the Red Dress
- 8against8: Saving Marriage (documentary)
- 8against8: Tying the Knot (documentary)
- 8against8: I Can't Marry You (documentary)
- Marriage is so gay*
- image, exposed
- On Matthew Shepard, and Not Getting Eaten Alive
- Spilling desire
- Announcing, at last, that it is fall
- On being a (gender) freak in New York City
- she can take more
- review: Pfun plug by Njoy
- when waitresses are kinky
- Her Best Line
- upon returning, a small complaint
- universe to Sinclair: high five
- How do you survive falling in love with people who ravage you? (part two)
- On Pronouns, Mine
- How do you survive falling in love with people who ravage you? *
- Define: Need a Word For Receiving Chivalry
- Define: Cisgender
- blackberry
- In Praise of Femmes: The Architecture of Identity
- femme conference roundup, & links
- Review: Goodfella
- Review: Spartacus Leathers
- Masculinity Depictions in Disney Films
- Review: Massage Bongers
- In Praise of Femmes: Hair & Shaving
- Define: Mutually Inclusive
- On Butches: Hair
- with what and where? 'spanked' winner
- The Suspension of Heterosexual Belief (1 of 3)
- with what and where would you like to be spanked?
- The Difference Between Romance and Chivalry
- Define: Transmasculine
- new place, new learning
- Gender 101 (Excerpt)
- moving backward, moving forward
- Cock Confidence: Goodfella from Vixen Creations
- Choice feminism & compulsory gender roles
- the solace of solitude
- forthcoming review: spanked
- what happened with Penny
- Telling Her What to Wear
- On Butch Style: Briefs
- review: Lipstick on her Collar
- Creating Conscious Gender
- ... I would say
- Review: Undercover Harness
- Review: Packing Cocks 101
- in praise of femmes: fishnets
- weekend, part two: dancing
- the weekend, part one: flogging
- review: Bonk by Mary Roach
- Intentional vs 'Natural' Gender
- my issues + her issues
- Lesbian stereotypes, reclaiming language, and activism
- sympathy vs skepticism
- This Is How I Want You Next
- Review: Share Double Dildo, and Two Vibrators
- More on Butch Bras
- On Butch Breasts, Binders, & Bras
- Learn to use that safeword, girl
- you're going to come for me.
- review: tantric sex for women
- this place of mild panic
- how suave I really am
- radio show aftermath
- In Praise of Femmes: Trust
- Balanced On the Tip of My Tongue
- free falling instead of bracing myself
- Gender Frustrations and Clarifications
- open up for me. you're mine today
- Mr. Bendy Strap-On Cock Broke, Again
- On misperceiving someone as femme or butch (again)
- On misperceiving someone as femme or butch
- Review of Crossdressing: Erotic Stories
- Sex Drive, Bed Death, & Dealbreakers
- Lesbian bed death, Butch/femme dating, and More Femme Worship (Plus Q&A)
- Revised: Music To Fuck To
- Ask Mr. Sexsmith: Butch Identity & Misogyny
- Femme Outfits, Fantasy, and more Q&A
- a potent alchemy
- Submissive Impulses & Why I Heart Sadists, Guest Post by muse
- such a beautiful submissive impulse
- On Piercing: Earlobe, Clit, Cock
- The Sadistic Impulse
- Review: Feeldoe Stout double dildo
- The Red Tie Night, Six Years Ago
- Five Tips for Getting Laid
- The Photo Shoot
- Clitoral Anatomy: Make a Wish on That Bone
- How to take butch cock seriously
- The personal ad I'm not posting
- "I've seen you do that."
- falling in love is still cheating
- depth of variation
- declining politely
- what I'm obsessing over
- High heels lead to a stronger pelvic floor
- In Praise of Femmes: Stretchmarks
- Reflections on Exes
- Tips for Dating via Personal Ads
- Messin' With Your Gender Paradigm
- In Response to a Rant Against Female Masculinity
- In Response to a Rant Against Female Masculinity, Guest Post by Jesse James
- "Lesbian Does Not = Butch"
- give me a london girl every time
- Femininity & Heterosexism
- An Argument For Butch/Femme
- tendencies
- Butch Flight, Dress-Up Test, Gender Galaxy, and Other Definitions
- Review: Bare As You Dare Harness
- Nostalgia for the Butch/Femme Dynamic
- Review: Vibrating Clitoral Pump
- revision
- An Elegant Blindfold
- k.d. lang's Watershed
- On Privilege & Gender (Part Two)
- Passing, Privilege, & Butch/Femme
- occasionally practically
- upon leaving mexico
- the therapy session
- Re-Valuing Masculinity
- ask and you shall receive
- whispers, after
- This is how she sleeps
- the hurricane between us
- how much my heart can take
- busy practicalities
- tear you apart
- The Houseboy's Rebellion
- except when it does
- in which there is a hurdle
- under my radar
- we dance
- the hotel room (part three)
- the hotel room (part two)
- the hotel room
- oops! an open apology
- poll results: my ass is hers
- Things that happened Thursday:
- going down
- Do I pack daily?
- butch/femme holiday guide
- I like submitting, but that's a secret
- Review: Mia-Z (harness)
- the stakes have been raised
- whatever you want
- Trans vs Butch Identity
- a queer symbol, a pagan symbol
- on playing with control
- miss scarlett in the library
- against the door frame
- Femme, A Matter of Intent
- gratitude from a new place
- Unwrapping the Present (Excerpt)
- white tee shirt & jeans
- Roses on fishnet stockings: yum
- Cross-Country Girl Adventures
- what is it you ... want?
- Fucking a Porn Star
- Review: Silky aka Mr. Bendy, My Very Favorite Cock
- will my cock get sucked?
- anonymity and a writer's life
- Femme as a Trans Identity
- Her Mouth on My Cock
- The Gender Code
- Review: Chemistry 3 (DVD)
- a star on my wrist
- this is how it goes
- post-script on what I'm calling things
- Motivations behind my butch identity development process
- Gender Identity vs Sexual Identity
- Butch Stoicism
- learning to love the rituals of letting go
- why I can't ask her to change
- The "Straight Girl" at the Dyke Bar
- what do I do with all this heat?
- "Femme is Pure Strength"
- an aspiration
- further workshop revelations
- workshop revelations
- review: the Crash Pad DVD
- More on Butch Identity, Mine
- broken, breaking
- Butch & Trans In Conversation: Interview with Cody
- The Hitchhiker
- ask for what you want
- how to do me right
- I top on the third date
- kink exploration vs bottoming
- a couple things to clarify
- Why we need to examine our lives
- is anyone ever really prepared?
- whet my appetite
- Top 10 things I love about femmes
- don't you know it
- officially seeking bottoms
- things I've never done, but would like to try
- this is my life
- there's a reason some things are cliche
- Top 10 things I love about being butch
- I did, and we did
- Top 10 things I love about being gay
- reset button
- The Popsicle in the Library
- What Gender Is
- Gender Is A Sex Toy
- This week's gender discussion: roundup
- Her Mouth on My Cock
- Gender Dynamics in the Sexblog Community
- Charcoal Portrait in the Art Studio
- The care & feeding of a butch
- Butch/femme as a Disruption of the Heteronormative Paradigm
- Threesome & A Purple Tie
- Further Points on Gender
- Ranting about Gender Binaries & Stereotypes
- The Diner on the Corner (Part Two)
- stay focused
- continuing to purge
- The Diner on the Corner (Part One)
- quarterlife crisis decisions
- This I believe
- vulnerability and simplicity
- oh so misunderstood
- a tiny revelation
- Bully
- how I continue to move on
- hemlock
- four chambered heart
- what happens when a friendship ends
- famous femmes I would fuck in a heartbeat
- sex with a boy?
- the trowel
- in which sinclair fists
- in which sinclair gets off
- in which sinclair bottoms
- kiss & tell
- Ginkgo Biloba
- 4. the update on sex
- 3. the update on dating
- 2. the update on my personal character quest
- the very idea of a bird
- what I would've done
- gather 'round, kids, it's story time
- How to Survive Your First Year in New York City
- a study of my own character
- ready to take flight
- me in a nutshell
- "you do not have to be good"
- letting go
- a new place to visit
- the ending you don't want to hear
- getting ready
- the prettiest girl in the place
- where I am
- a request
- four-chambered heart
- inevitable winter
- "Lesbians found guilty ... "
- as yet untitled
- secret identity
- small update
- how deep the bruise goes
- hemlock
- pure possibility
- In Which Viviane Interviews Me
- burst(ing)
- "Queer butch" does not equal "lesbian"
- Fill in the blank
- things to brainstorm on the morning commute
- not yet
- note to self
- from the inside
- ungrateful: a faery tale
- waiting is my favorite part
- vice grip
- standing up
- sunday scribblings: fantasy
- exhaustion & the ex
- dark scribblings
- tumbling
- fashion crisis
- thirteen and a half times
- what i mean is
- what I haven’t told you I believe about love
- a note to her I have yet to send
- distracting myself III
- distracting myself II
- distracting myself
- four years of photographs
- birds or boxing
- keeping my desire in check
- southern hospitality - part one
- in no particular order
- sex and bleeding
- "a terrible New York story"
- a kite who let go of the string
- let go, just let go
- postscript: about the apartment
- in which things begin, again
- lucky?
- for Ally, because she kept me up late last night
- needing the north star
- an excerpt from something upcoming
- you cum like a girl
- things will be different later
- I'm being eaten alive
- falling falling falling through
- who am I to talk of love?
- my friends are smart
- have patience with everything unresolved in your heart
- sex is fiction
- the truth is:
- she's coming home
- drawing thicker lines
- delivered, unintentionally
- proving it vs giving up
- flight and migration
- when is it enough?
- revelations about myself
- fighting
- new rules for being me
- something has to change
- do I dare?
- she's gone
- want (in progress)
- break-up aura
- ... it could have
- I fantasize about kissing you
- bed death, standard variety