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things I’ve never done, but would like to try

Posted on by Sinclair Sexsmith

  1. Fuck a girl’s ass with a strapon (is it still called pegging if it’s two women, or is pegging unique to a woman strapped on fucking a guy?). I’ve done plenty of ass-play, but somehow the women I’ve been with have never actually been comfortable enough with it for me to be strapped on. I have, however, fucked a guy this way, once upon a time.

  2. Stingy toys, like a cane. I’d like to leave some marks. I’ve used a cane before, actually, but I don’t own one, and I’d like to experiment to feel more comfortable with it

  3. Receive – and give – a cutting

  4. Role-play out in a bar, pretend we don’t know each other and pick each other up. I suppose that has a lot of variations (resistance, convincing).

  5. Sex in central park, sex in every girl club in new york city (the bathroom, the back room, the alley, the deserted dancefloor, wherever), sex at work. After hours, in an empty office, wherever. I’ve done that, actually, though not at my current job.

  6. Play with knives. And yes, I think I’d like to be the one holding the knife, although that could be negotiable.

  7. And, last but not least, recent events have told me that I need to practice my flogging & rope bondage.

Published by Sinclair Sexsmith

Sinclair Sexsmith (they/them) is "the best-known butch erotica writer whose kinky, groundbreaking stories have turned on countless queers" (AfterEllen), who "is in all the books, wins all the awards, speaks at all the panels and readings, knows all the stuff, and writes for all the places" (Autostraddle). ​Their short story collection, Sweet & Rough: Queer Kink Erotica, was a 2016 finalist for a Lambda Literary Award, and they are the current editor of the Best Lesbian Erotica series. They identify as a white non-binary butch dominant, a survivor, and an introvert, and they live outside Seattle as an uninvited settler on traditional, ancestral, & unceded Snoqualmie land.

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7 thoughts on “things I’ve never done, but would like to try”

  1. Tess says:

    Down for it all, Sinclair, except number 3.

    I totally fucking love knife play. And yes, you can hold. You’ve seen me wield a flogger, trust me, no one wants me holding the knife. ;-)

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  2. Essin' Em says:

    some of those things are a bit intense for me, but I wish you the best of luck in finding a partner who will enjoy them just as much as you will!

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  3. birdonthewirenyc says:

    hell yeah. i ordered some japanese silk rope yesterday online. can't wait for it to come in so i can play…

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  4. Shannon says:

    Well they say the first step toward realizing any dream is to have a plan…I think you're destined for success :)

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  5. Jake says:

    Haha, it's people like you that prompted the owners at Henrietta's to put the "Only 1 Person At A Time" sign on all the bathroom doors :)

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  6. sinclair says:

    this is true. I love fucking in bathrooms. partly it's because dancing & drinking get me hot & bothered, but I also love a good girl on her knees on the dirty floor. mm yeah.

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  7. Ms. Avarice says:

    i'm up for 2, 3, 5, 6 and 7.

    Reply

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