My Butch/Femme Holiday Gift List is getting out of control. I have four pages of notes in my journal, multiple notepad files with links and images. And I just can’t seem to polish it up enough to finish, and fuck, time is running out.
So, I’m going to pick five.
Gifts for the butch-leaning gal in your life:
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Engraved hidden message collar stays From Red EnvelopeI’m always losing collar stays in the wash, and these are super sweet, with messages like “You’re so handsome.” Awww. |
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Men’s accessories box From Red EnvelopeBecause we still have watches, leather cuffs, chains, collar stays, rings, pocketwatches, cuff links … so of course, we must have somewhere fabulous to hold it all! Red Envelope has many other excellent gifts, check em out. |
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Ties that Don’t Suck – by Cyberoptix TieLab on EtsyThese ties are so badass. Some of them are kinda spendy, but they’re beautiful, and so high quality.
For someone slightly more punk rock, consider Tomcat Threads for some awesome one-of-a-kind vintage silkscreened ties. I have one of these with a microphone on it, and it’s my favorite tie of all. Look for somewhat slim, skinny, narrow ties, especially for female-bodied folks who are slender. Cyberoptix has many options in the narrow-tie style. |
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Whiskey Glasses Via AmazonHandblown glass remake of a classic whiskey tumbler. Perfect for other refined liquors, even if she’s not a bourbon/whiskey/scotch kinda guy. Also consider a flask – even better if it’s engraved with some memorable phrase or image she will love. I wouldn’t recommend something like “to my sweetie, love, me” – it’ll be much more timeless with a personal touch, but not a personalization. |
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Tiffany Classic Money Clip From Tiffany & CoEven if she’s more of a wallet kind of guy, a money clip is a good thing to have in the accessory box … and Tiffany’s engraves. Gorgeous, classic. Also consider Cufflinks from Tiffany, there are some fantastic classic, plain, smooth sets that would be such a great gift. |
Gifts for the femme-leaning gal in your life:
| Perfume BottleI wouldn’t really presume to buy her her favorite perfume, or a new perfume, unless she asks for it (or hints at it!) specifically, but antique perfume bottles are so beautiful on a dresser or vanity, and hold the scents that she picks out. |
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| LingerieOh, I know. It’s a tough one. You gotta know her size, and have an idea of what she likes – and what you like. Browse around through Princess Tamtam and Agent Provocateur for inspiring ideas.
(Yes, that’s Maggie Gyllanhall over there, modeling Agent Provocateur lingerie. Many other photos of her at the site.) |
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| Shoes. Oh my god, shoes.Shoes are another tough one. I can recommend some good sites, but probably not specific shoes: the Red Door Store has a fantastic selection, as does Endless (and, as a sidenote, I really geek out on the navigation and interface for Endless. Gorgeous).
The Red Door Store has lingerie, costumes, and bondage gear, too … |
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| Vintage Brush & Hand Mirror setThese are kinda hard to find; I bought a set on eBay as a gift for the Unholy ex last year (you may remember that, if you’ve been around. I can’t find the post on it) and I thought it was a brilliant suggestion. The beauty of these items alone, even if they are not used or functional, is such a lovely addition to a vanity or dresser top. |  |
| JewelryMan, I feel like I’m going with very cliche femme gifts. Perfume, jewelry, shoes, lingerie? Really, Sinclair? Somebody help me out here, leave more suggestions in the comments, please. Good thing I don’t have anybody special to buy for this year.
Meanwhile: I adore this necklace from Janet Jewelry. You can customize some text to go onto it, or choose some excellent phrases that Janet has already made, like “The best revenge is living well” or “whatever doesn’t kill you makes you stronger.” Super sexy. |
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| More Jewelry … rings, this timeRings are loaded, I know, but if you can go for it, these rings from Amy Peters Studio are amazing and lovely. I want a set for myself, someday.It’s a ring set, three rings with different words on each one: Believe Dream Hope Wish / In About For For / Peace Magic Love Happiness. So they make a little sentence as they rotate on your finger.
I also really love her Message in a bottle pendants and double sided necklaces |
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I got some great comments from femmes about what they wanted for the holidays, so I’ll direct you over there for some more ideas. The iBuzz vibrator for two was suggested, and one last particular mention comes from a reader via email:
I am a submissive, by choice and nature. And though my butch is quite accomodating, there are some things I can’t even imagine her doing unless asked. Brushing my hair, painting my toenails, wearing a sleeveless tee, baggy jeans with a hint of boxers revealed, and Tims, donning toolbelt, hammering and drilling at my command, sweating and…wait, I’m getting ahead of myself. You get my point. In a nutshell, I want a day of servitude from my butch…anything I want for a whole day.
Sounds like a fabulous gift, to me.
These are awesome awesome gifts. I think I just found one for my mom. Not quite the femme in my life, but hey, it'll do. She is a special woman, after all. That RedEnvelope store is beautiful, they have so many nice things, I've never seen it before. Thanks for putting this together.
oh, my, those ties on etsy are gorgeous. i want to get one for my bro (not quite the butch in my life, but hey =) of course i want to get some of them for myself too. these are all lovely gifts.
As a fairly girly-girl (dunno if I'd qualify as a femme per se), I'd say those are great choices as I know I'd love any of those as a gift personally.
there's a lovely vintage store near me that has an ENORMOUS basket of skinny vintage ties. I've been thinking about getting one or two for my girl but I wasn't sure if it was a good present–now I guess I'll have to get some:)
perfume, jewelry, accessories, etc are very cliche gifts, but I have to say, they really are what I want most. because I rarely feel comfortable buying such things for myself, and also because they are affirming and sweet–the same sentiment that makes them cliche, the history of feminine presentation, is the same thing that makes them such a touching thing to receive.
holy shit, that tie is awesome!!!!
aw, thanks, Avah & Linaria, for the support! I'm glad they're not as cliche as they seem. I feel like the butch gifts I listed were so specific – I guess it's easier for me to recommend specific things that I know *I'd* like, but harder to suggest specific things for others to get for their femme girls, because, who knows?
bird – I knew you'd like that tie :)