If you don’t know about the queer indy porn flick Champion by Pink & White Productions, I bet you haven’t been spending much time around the queer/porn blogosphere lately, because it has quickly risen to the top of many all-time favorite lists. I wrote my own review of Champion back in January 09 if you’d like to see how I enjoyed it.
If you haven’t seen this, you’re missing out.
And now’s your chance! Because see, Sugarbutch’s visitor counter hit 1,000,000 last week. One million! Can you believe it? Stat counters aren’t exactly rocket science, I think that number is probably give-or-take-a-thousand, but still, to see it roll over to seven digits was kinda mind blowing.
Thank you, for visiting, for stopping by, for reading whatever it is you’ve read here on Sugarbutch, for your comments and emails, for clicking through on the reviews or the affiliate links, for clicking through the advertisers, for coming back, for sharing these links with your friends or lovers or girlfriends or wives or boyfriends or mistresses or whomever you might send them to. Thanks for reading. Thanks for thinking about these things. Thank you.
So I’m doing a very special giveaway, thanks to Babeland: the Champion DVD itself. All you gotta do is leave a comment (with a valid email address) and give me one piece of feedback about Sugarbutch, either something you like or something you don’t like or something you wish I did more often or something you miss that I used to do or something I’ve never done or a question you have or a comment about the process or how you found this site or ANYTHING.
I’ll pick ONE single winner at random on Monday morning.
I love this site and I'm actually visiting NYC this week (excited about going to your panel discussion) from Cali. I know you do a lot of this already, but I would love to see more "stories to turn you on" or perhaps more variety. Perhaps a story that exposes the emotional aspects of a sexual encounter (when in love or otherwise), a threesome, friendships that turn into more, vacation sex, voyeurism, etc. I love the stories you write and I look forward to reading more of them. Thank you so much.
Since I found this blog, I've been more in love than ever with my femme identity – but, gender aside, I often relate to the personal development musing, which is great. And loved the hot butches project ^_^
I love, love, love Sugarbutch. Thank you for your courage and excitement in sharing with us. I’m not sure I really have any suggestions, just that I’m a new-ish reader and I would love to see more regular posts!
This isn't really feedback on the site but about the outer reaches of the Sugarbutch Empire. I've seen you speak in New York a couple of times and you are just fantastic! I'd love it if you went to more colleges/community centers/anywhere really to talk about the things you talk about, especially because your gender musings are often so down-to-earth (even as they're totally analytically rigorous) and challenge the stranglehold Theory and its Buzzwords has on Gender.
Congratulations on 1,000,000! Feedback: thank you for changing the format back to how I like it ;)
The ponderings on gender & personal growth & relationships — those are my favorite, but the smut is a close second.
I'd like to hear more about how you relate to other butches/masculine-identified folks.
I love the delicious combination of hot sexy goodness, thoughtfulness, presence and more hot sexy goodness that I find here. Reading your words (and comments/links and enticing images) helps me feel connected both to my internal wild-ranging feral femmeness and to a larger community of gender/queer folks. Thank you for all of it!
I’m eagerly awaiting a chapbook. When will you send out the next batch?
Congratulations on hitting a million! I love your blog. As a young queer, it's really inspired me to think more about my gender, and my identity. I frequently find myself thinking about the subjects of your posts long after I read them, and you've introduced many new things into my consciousness. So, thank you, and I hope I can see you speak in person some time. Also, I hope some day to be brave enough to send in my picture for queer eye candy. :)
More smut please. I just like that someone like you exists: a butch that chronicles her life, engages in deep introspection, puts it in writing and publishes it for the world to indulge in.
Oh man, SBC has been totally mind opening for me. I had no idea what I thought about these issues before I found your site. I legit think I didn't even know these issues and topics existed! For real. I'd like to hear more about your personal history, if you're up for sharing it. I mean, you had to start somewhere. Where and when was the start? What was before the start? As someone just at the beginning of my journey, it's great to read about the middle of the trip, but I'd love to hear about your beginning, too.
Just my $.02
Love the site. Just started reading it recently, but now I can't stop. Keep up the good work.
My partner recently went through a year of thinking she was a transguy, which was really tough on both of us. This site has helped us both rediscover the butch/femme couple that we are. It's so wonderful to be able to embrace an identity that I actually own rather than just trying to blend in as a straight woman. Femmes are ivisible enough as it is. Thank you.
Sinclair,
I love Sugarbutch! Your writing style is so sexy and passionate. I love it all. Keep up the amazing work. And wooty-woo to promoting Pink & White. They’re my favorite company.
– A
I've only recently started reading Sugarbutch, and I wish I'd had it to read as I was coming out. I've gotten lots of disapproval from queer and straight friends and lovers for being a kinky femme bottom ("How disappointingly mainstream of you, to be feminine and submissive."), so visibility, comfort, and reinforcement are really nice. Yeah, that is who I am, that is what I want, I'm not the only one, and it's pretty fantastic.
Also, I've never read such sexy, intelligent smut. Mmm.
I really enjoy the posts defining certain words in relation to butch/femme and the other topics here. I loved the "courtly" one in particular. I love chivalry and it's neat to have a word for my experience.
There is no way I could complain about your site. I think it is an absolutely fantastic resource on so many levels. Being from the tiny capital city of Alaska, the internet is crucial for information and entertainment, both of which you do exceptional jobs of. Especially for a femme figuring out just where on the butch/femme spectrum she falls. Thanks for everything!! PS- I prefer the label "Alaska Femme", eyeliner and extra-tuffs. Dress up at any chance I get but love to get out in the dirt.
I've been reading this blog for almost two years and I love it, keep coming back to it day after day. I love reading your introspective and fictional pieces. Your sincerity and honesty helped me and my lover work through our gender issues. I can't begin to tell you how much you've done for us.
I am so excited you are coming to Knox College.
I can't wait to meet you.
Im so glad you changed the format back. I'm so glad you did the top hot butches list. I'm so glad you do queer eye candy. Id love to offer more critical, incisive feedback — the deltas, the changes, the growth — but I cant think of anything.
You should write a post inviting more specific critical feedback :) How bout that :)
Hey SS,
Sugarbutch has been on my bookmarks menu for over a year now. I come for the gender discussions and stay for the smut. We don't agree on everything, but I love how Sugarbutch is a part of the conversation. Also, Shine Louise Houston is brilliant, and what she does for our communities is awesome, thanks for linking to her stuff all over the place.
Thank you!
Okay. So. We're all thinking it, I'm just saying it: you're awesome. There were a lot of things I had going in my head about who (and, in some aspects, what) I am, but then I found your site. I admit, I'm still in the early stages of fully exploring myself, but now that I know I'm not completely crazy for identifying in the way I do, it's much easier to move forward. Your ablility to actually find words to describe *everything… whatever everything is* is truly incredible, and to be honest, I'm a bit jealous. ;)
It was the name for me. I found you in someone's blogroll and it was as if you had neon lights and women with long legs and high heels dancing around your name. So, I noticed you. Then I came here and you were everything that your name promised me except you were much more than just that. I never expected to learn as much about myself as I did and I certainly never thought it would lead to finding a space of my own in this strange world, but with your gentle nudge, I did just that. I am proud to be cheerleader for you and I'll stay here in this first home, reading everything you write as long as you continue to do so b/c quite simply put, there is no better place. Thanks for putting it all out there like you do. You make such a difference. Much love.
…recent'ly i found your site, imme' saved as fav…love it much & so…
feedback…more postings…love reading you!
My feedback is that while I have read your blog for a while, what I really enjoy is seeing (via twitter, via your Tumblr) just how many Bay Area queer/feminist sex workers you know (and they're some of my favs). It makes the world feel a little smaller.
Congratulations on reaching the 1 million milestone.
There's a lot to like about the site–you've become a trusted source of advice on which products to buy and I've taken your advice on more than a few occasions. And yes, I enjoy the smut, but when it comes down to it, I think the reason I frequent the site is because I learn a lot.
Wow, that sounded geeky.
Seriously, though, you speak about things in such a candid way that the intimidation that I'd feel if I were trying to explore these issues "in real life" is completely gone. I find myself regularly challenged on what provokes me on SBC.
I've kind of had some issues in the past with accepting my own butch identity but I've really loved watching you and others discuss the very kinds of things I've had kicking around in my head for years. I also love the things you link to, I've found some other great blogs/sites/authors through Sugarbutch!
I'd leave a more articulate comment but it is my birthday and I need to sleep off last evening's mix of classy booze… classy on their own, not as parts in a series. Ouch.
Hey there! I'm the partner of someone who posted above, Max. I grew up not knowing any butches and it was hard on me. I've always been really uncomfortable with my femininity and when I realized that I also love binding (all the time) and presenting in a masculine way, I thought the only option was to be FTM. After reading this site (and a little Leslie Feinberg) I realized that I'm much more comfortable identifying as a masculine woman. Being a transguy didn't make me happy the way being butch does. I love that my voice and my presentation don't match up. I love that 90% of the time when people see me, they don't know what gender I am. Thank you for embracing who you are – you've made it easier for me to understand (and love) who I am.
congratulations!
have you ever thought of a UK tour?
S x
Just found your site via @pinkwhite on twitter. Looks great! I'll be hanging around here more often ;)
how bout a reading in your hometown?
Your writing, the feelings that come through and your ability to dive deeper and depper until you hit the truth…that is an amazing thing to witness. Thanks for letting us go there with you!
It’s probably just gone morning in America … I’m reading/writing this from a small town in rural Western Australia – probably one of the more isolated parts of the world! – and your site has been a small revelation. i think i stumbled across it while googling ‘dyke porn’. there aren’t many around here – dykes, that is – and i’m not even sure i am one, but i’m looking forward to exploring your page…i especially like that you veer from theoretical and personal musings to the dirty (and thankfully so well written!) stuff. bye from oz.
hey, i've been reading sugarbutch for a while now and really enjoy it :) i mostly like reading about your experiences with gender identity since that's something i'm very interested in right now (since i've been feeling the urge to play with/explore my own lately) and you discuss it very articulately.
Everybody: Thank you SO MUCH for this feedback! It's flattering of course to hear the praise, but more than that, it's really useful to hear what you like and what YOU find the most useful, and the bits of critical feedback are fantastic. Thank you for taking the time to respond!