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I’m still reeling from all the Sideshow amazingness last night, will have more of a recap/update soon.
Meanwhile, here’s an amazing new piece by Ivan E. Coyote at Speak Up! on 4/10/2010.
Yes yes yes ditto to all of that. What a pleasure to hear.
Published by Sinclair Sexsmith
Sinclair Sexsmith (they/them) is "the best-known butch erotica writer whose kinky, groundbreaking stories have turned on countless queers" (AfterEllen), who "is in all the books, wins all the awards, speaks at all the panels and readings, knows all the stuff, and writes for all the places" (Autostraddle). ​Their short story collection, Sweet & Rough: Queer Kink Erotica, was a 2016 finalist for a Lambda Literary Award, and they are the current editor of the Best Lesbian Erotica series. They identify as a white non-binary butch dominant, a survivor, and an introvert, and they live outside Seattle as an uninvited settler on traditional, ancestral, & unceded Snoqualmie land.
26 thoughts on ““To all of the kick ass, beautiful fierce femmes out there …””
Kelley Osays:
That was AWESOME!!!!!! Ivan is HOTTTTT!!!
Mnlsays:
This gave me chills. I'm not full-bodied, and I don't wear five-inch heels, but otherwise, I felt she was speaking to me. And I've long thought Ivan E. Coyote was damned handsome.
mcsays:
Perhaps it's because I've just been reading Leslie Feinberg's chapters in Joan Nestle's The Persistent Desire (and Feinberg usually makes me emotional), but this is making me tear up like I'm cutting onions, it's almost embarassing. I had to pause halfway and excuse myself to the washroom.
Also, Sinclair, there's a picture of a 1950s butch in that anthology – "Lynne Berry in Worcester, Mass, 1955", a piece written by Elizabeth Kennedy and Madeline Davis. The resemblance to you is a little scary!
laurensays:
Thank you for sharing this – it was so beautiful. My butch doesn't always have the words – but Ivan does. Thank you again.
Benjamin_Bekssays:
all i can say is, thank you. my own identity has been in tatters recently and this was just the boost i needed to let me know that i'm not a freak, i'm not messed up, and i'm not alone.
brought a tear to my eye.
just…thank you.
Vivansays:
Simply amazing…
Shinydan Howellssays:
Simply fantastic. Balls of tungsten steel, right there. Thank you.
Thank you! I cried and cried. I am a femme who some days hates being able to "pass". This lovely video has made it all worth it though!!! Thank you Ivan!!!!!
Jaysays:
Brava! This is very much appreciated. From the very beginning I connected to every descriptor given. My butch and I watched it together, this is EXACTLY how she feels. I, myself, am grateful of the recognition of the unique struggles of being femme (i.e. "passing", perpetual coming out, invisibility to our own community, etc).
I work hard to maintain my full body and stay perched in those stilettos.
Lovely. Made me feel good about myself. :)
femme in butch clothsays:
Weeping! I think I read this piece somewhere but it's so wonderful to see it read out loud.
I'm in awe. That was beautiful. Thank you so much for sharing.
Mariesays:
I was there! Ivan was simply amazing. So very moving to see him read live, no matter that I'd read this piece before. (And yes, he is so handsome. ;) )
Though I've seen Ivan read this in person, seen it on youtube, read the essay myself.. every time, it makes me tear up. He's an amazing story teller and his honesty is an inspiration.
plus I have complete butch envy for his haircut and clothes
Thank you so much for posting this! I've read this before and am about to tears hearing it out loud. My butch girlfriend and I went to the girl bar last night. It got me down…I get evil "what the hell is she doing here stares." While my girlfriend gets random conversations or smiles. It really killed me last night, in particular. We so rarely get to go out to the bar. We're nervous about walking into a straight bar around where we live. But, sometimes I'm tempted to give it a try since I get just as much discrimination at my own girl bar! If not worse…because it's my own friggin' community!!
My loving girlfriend had the fortune to hear my rant. Thankfully, she is so very understanding.
Anyway. I really needed to hear these words tonight. Thank you very much! It's such a confidence boost knowing that our butches are so proud to wrap their arms around a sweet hot femme! Thank you, again!
That was AWESOME!!!!!! Ivan is HOTTTTT!!!
This gave me chills. I'm not full-bodied, and I don't wear five-inch heels, but otherwise, I felt she was speaking to me. And I've long thought Ivan E. Coyote was damned handsome.
Perhaps it's because I've just been reading Leslie Feinberg's chapters in Joan Nestle's The Persistent Desire (and Feinberg usually makes me emotional), but this is making me tear up like I'm cutting onions, it's almost embarassing. I had to pause halfway and excuse myself to the washroom.
Also, Sinclair, there's a picture of a 1950s butch in that anthology – "Lynne Berry in Worcester, Mass, 1955", a piece written by Elizabeth Kennedy and Madeline Davis. The resemblance to you is a little scary!
Thank you for sharing this – it was so beautiful. My butch doesn't always have the words – but Ivan does. Thank you again.
all i can say is, thank you. my own identity has been in tatters recently and this was just the boost i needed to let me know that i'm not a freak, i'm not messed up, and i'm not alone.
brought a tear to my eye.
just…thank you.
Simply amazing…
Simply fantastic. Balls of tungsten steel, right there. Thank you.
Guh. Thank you so much for posting this. I cried. A lot. I cried so much that I had to repost it on my own blog.
Heavy sigh. Lots of tears. Thank you for sharing.
This made me feel pretty in a way that being seen only can. Thank you, Ivan.
SO great. And you, and Ivan, are welcome. Just so's you know.
Thank you! I cried and cried. I am a femme who some days hates being able to "pass". This lovely video has made it all worth it though!!! Thank you Ivan!!!!!
Brava! This is very much appreciated. From the very beginning I connected to every descriptor given. My butch and I watched it together, this is EXACTLY how she feels. I, myself, am grateful of the recognition of the unique struggles of being femme (i.e. "passing", perpetual coming out, invisibility to our own community, etc).
I work hard to maintain my full body and stay perched in those stilettos.
Lovely. Made me feel good about myself. :)
Weeping! I think I read this piece somewhere but it's so wonderful to see it read out loud.
I'm in awe. That was beautiful. Thank you so much for sharing.
I was there! Ivan was simply amazing. So very moving to see him read live, no matter that I'd read this piece before. (And yes, he is so handsome. ;) )
Though I've seen Ivan read this in person, seen it on youtube, read the essay myself.. every time, it makes me tear up. He's an amazing story teller and his honesty is an inspiration.
plus I have complete butch envy for his haircut and clothes
Lovely :)
To those who want to read the essay:
http://www.xtra.ca/public/National/Hats_off_to_be…
LOVE this piece.
Thanks so much for this.
Im a bit late to the game, but this was amazing. I want to have Ivan's babies!!
Honestly speechless, and wanting to hear it again.
Thank you so much for posting this! I've read this before and am about to tears hearing it out loud. My butch girlfriend and I went to the girl bar last night. It got me down…I get evil "what the hell is she doing here stares." While my girlfriend gets random conversations or smiles. It really killed me last night, in particular. We so rarely get to go out to the bar. We're nervous about walking into a straight bar around where we live. But, sometimes I'm tempted to give it a try since I get just as much discrimination at my own girl bar! If not worse…because it's my own friggin' community!!
My loving girlfriend had the fortune to hear my rant. Thankfully, she is so very understanding.
Anyway. I really needed to hear these words tonight. Thank you very much! It's such a confidence boost knowing that our butches are so proud to wrap their arms around a sweet hot femme! Thank you, again!
Beautiful. Absolutely beautiful. Made me smile, and made me tear up too. Thank you for posting this!