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Power Blow Job Demo with Me & Kristen at Submit on Saturday Night in Brooklyn

Have you ever been to the Submit play party? It’s a women and trans only play party monthly in Brooklyn at an undisclosed dungeon which has all sorts of great equipment, from cages to saint andrews crosses to a medical table to saw horses. There’s a social room and a bootblacking station and lots of gender-neutral bathrooms nooks and crannies if you want a little privacy and a swing and condoms and lube in every room.

I don’t go monthly, but I go often, and Kristen and I have had many great scenes there in the past (almost) four years we’ve been together. Red, the butch who runs it, is a good friend of mine and I love how they keep the space warm, welcoming, and monitored.

This week, Red asked if Kristen and I would do the demo. Usually there’s some sort of demo at 12:30am (last time we went there was a cutting demo, which was beautiful), and this time, we’ll be doing Power Blow Jobs. I don’t have a formal description for the demo, which will only be 20-30 minutes long, and more about a demonstration than about a formal class on technique, though we’ll both be piping in to talk about what we’re doing and give some tips. Or at least I will, Kristen will probably have her mouth full. Just kidding—her perspective is really valuable here and I’m looking forward to hearing what she has to say, actually, since often I’m the one talking about my experience.

It’s also been fun to, ahem, practice this week, leading up to it.

SUBMIT Party
Women & trans folks only
September 29th, Saturday, 10 – 3 am (doors close at 2 am)
$15 bucks before midnight, $20 after
RSVP on Fetlife & pre-cruise who’ll be there
for exact location call 718.789.4053 or email Red@submitparty.com

So hey, maybe we’ll see you there?

Published by Sinclair Sexsmith

Sinclair Sexsmith (they/them) is "the best-known butch erotica writer whose kinky, groundbreaking stories have turned on countless queers" (AfterEllen), who "is in all the books, wins all the awards, speaks at all the panels and readings, knows all the stuff, and writes for all the places" (Autostraddle). ​Their short story collection, Sweet & Rough: Queer Kink Erotica, was a 2016 finalist for a Lambda Literary Award, and they are the current editor of the Best Lesbian Erotica series. They identify as a white non-binary butch dominant, a survivor, and an introvert, and they live outside Seattle as an uninvited settler on traditional, ancestral, & unceded Snoqualmie land.

5 thoughts on “Power Blow Job Demo with Me & Kristen at Submit on Saturday Night in Brooklyn”

  1. a says:

    i think everyone should talk more often about queer blowjobs. :)

  2. femme says:

    Possibly weird question: What does one wear to a play party?! My partner and I have never been, but we want to go–but we’re shy!

    1. red says:

      hi! you can wear what ever you want…. there is no dress code…some people wear fetish gear and some wear street clothes,… I always say why not look kinky fabulous!

      hope to see you there..
      Red

    2. Sinclair says:

      usually I wear jeans and a button down, sometimes a tie, sometimes a leather jacket (if it’s not too hot out), leather boots. or sometimes just jeans and a tee shirt, if I’m not feeling like dressing up. Kristen has worn all sorts of things, from lingerie to a fancy dress to jeans and a tee shirt.

      so, wear whatever makes you feel sexy and hot.

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