A friend of mine recently asked me if I had any resources for chronic pain and sexuality. I knew of a few off the top of my head, but I started looking around, and querying in a few of the sex educator groups I’m in, and on Twitter, and compiled this list.
Thanks to everyone who weighed in and made suggestions!
What else do you all recommend? Please leave them in the comments.
Spoon Theory
Y’all probably know about the spoon theory — it is very widely popular in many circles, not only when talking about ability, written by Christine Miserandino. If you don’t, highly recommend you familiarize yourself with it — here’s the sweet article that started it all, over on ButYouDontLookSick.com.
Websites
Chronic Sex – & their Podcast
KinkAcademy.com – Shanna Katz & Wintersong Tashlin have series on sex & disability
Sexability.com – Rafe Biggs
Disability After Dark – Andrew Gurza
SexAbled – Robin Wilson-Beattie
Articles
Sex Positions for Limited Mobility
Books
D/s Books
Mastering Mind: Dominants With Mental Illness and Neurological Dysfunction
Hell on Wheels: Disabled Dominants
Kneeling in Spirit: Disabled Submissives
Conference
Sex & Disability conference – happened in 2017 but there are listings for presenters and resources here
Thank you for this article. I’m looking forward to diving into these further.
This article meant a lot to me and several friends:
“Know Me Where It Hurts: Sex, Kink, and Cerebral Palsy” by Carrie.
https://www.autostraddle.com/know-me-where-it-hurts-kink-cerebral-palsy-226077/
This article is mostly disability focused but sharing it because of bodies being exquisite and it is one of my all time favorite articles related to disabilities. Plus it has Eli Clare (amazing author, writes about trans and disability issues). “Where All Bodies Are Exquisite” By Riva Lehrer: https://www.nytimes.com/2017/08/09/opinion/where-all-bodies-are-exquisite.html (trigger warnings for medical and surgical talk; along with disturbing medical practices and specimens).
Thank you for this, I really needed a resource page for myself. I shared it on my place of work’s FB page. Feelmore Adult. We get a lot of clients that will be happy to utilize this. I made sure to give you credit and linked it to your page.
Hello Sinclair,
This is a great compilation, thanks for sharing. I really appreciate you for your steadfastness in improving on your defined awesome niche. Sex is a vitality of intimacy for the couples. Sometimes some conditions may alter this intimacy for example chronic dyspareunia cause make sex frustrating. I hope this materials be of great help to those in need.