“I know I’m submissive. But where do I start?” aka “I just read Fifty Shades of Grey and I want THAT.”

June 26th, 2014 • 5 minute read • by


What you should know about privacy, secret identities, and kink communities

June 24th, 2014 • 8 minute read • by


A Little Note About Father’s Day

June 13th, 2014 • 2 minute read • by


Submissive Playground Winner!

June 11th, 2014 • < 1 minute read • by


Review: Butt toys from Adam + Eve

June 7th, 2014 • 2 minute read • by


Ask Mr. Sexsmith: I’m a sub, but my partner is not a dom. What do I do?

June 6th, 2014 • 4 minute read • by


Protected: This week in photos: porn, pancakes, and green things.

June 5th, 2014 • < 1 minute read • by


Protected: Two Weeks Ago in photos: California staycation

June 4th, 2014 • < 1 minute read • by


The Identity Project: “Butch daddy poet” and “Genderqueer leather boy”

May 30th, 2014 • 2 minute read • by


Review: Nipple Suction Toys (via the Stockroom)

May 28th, 2014 • 6 minute read • by


Protected: From the archives: The most holy things I do

May 22nd, 2014 • 5 minute read • by


Check it out: New “Cock Confidence Guide”

May 20th, 2014 • < 1 minute read • by


Protected: April in photos, part two: IMsL, green hills hike, and some personal moments

May 14th, 2014 • < 1 minute read • by


Fantasy, Gardens, & Politics of Butch Identity in April’s Book Roundup

May 6th, 2014 • 5 minute read • by


Protected: This month in photos, part one: in which I turn 35 and visit Seattle

April 28th, 2014 • < 1 minute read • by


Giveaway! Want a membership for Indie Porn Revolution? Of course you do.

April 25th, 2014 • < 1 minute read • by


Happy Birthday, rife!

April 24th, 2014 • 2 minute read • by


Treehouse Poem

April 21st, 2014 • 2 minute read • by


Ask Mr. Sexsmith: I struggle with my feminist beliefs and my bedroom preferences … help!

April 18th, 2014 • 7 minute read • by


Protected: Vulnerability is a challenge

April 15th, 2014 • 7 minute read • by


The Longest Running Queer Porn Site, Courtney Trouble’s Indie Porn Revolution, is the April Feature

April 9th, 2014 • 2 minute read • by


Protected: From the archives: You’re Fucking Mine

April 4th, 2014 • 6 minute read • by


March Book Roundup: Sex, sex, and more sex

April 3rd, 2014 • 8 minute read • by


Protected: This week in photos: That green spring color

March 26th, 2014 • 2 minute read • by


The Beautiful Permission

March 25th, 2014 • < 1 minute read • by


Ask Mr. Sexsmith: How Do I Use My Girlfriend for My Pleasure?

March 19th, 2014 • 6 minute read • by


Counting Down

March 17th, 2014 • < 1 minute read • by


Protected: This week in photos: Playing tourist in SF

March 10th, 2014 • < 1 minute read • by


Review: Aneros Evi G-Spot Massager

March 9th, 2014 • 3 minute read • by


Protected: “And bowing not knowing to what”

March 5th, 2014 • 3 minute read • by


Ready to explore “embodiment”? Three workshop offerings in Seattle & San Francisco in March & April

March 4th, 2014 • 6 minute read • by


When I’m getting off

March 3rd, 2014 • 2 minute read • by


To All the Tops Who Are Afraid to Make a Move

February 25th, 2014 • 6 minute read • by


Protected: This week in photos: Yosemite & back

February 24th, 2014 • < 1 minute read • by


Protected: This week in photos: Snow, mostly

February 13th, 2014 • < 1 minute read • by


It’s Valentine’s Day, so here’s some Desert Island Toys

February 12th, 2014 • < 1 minute read • by


February Feature: Crash Pad Series & strap-on queer porn scenes you gotta see

February 11th, 2014 • 3 minute read • by


On the road again … Portland + Princeton

February 4th, 2014 • 2 minute read • by


Is genderqueer (or butch) a stepping stone to transitioning?

February 3rd, 2014 • 5 minute read • by


Protected: This week in photos: freakish Bay Area winter

February 1st, 2014 • < 1 minute read • by


Devouring Magic: January Book Roundup

January 31st, 2014 • 4 minute read • by


Why A Wrestler Will Beat A Boxer Every Time

January 28th, 2014 • < 1 minute read • by


How I make my boy do the dishes

January 27th, 2014 • 6 minute read • by


The Great Reader Mini-Interview, Part Eight: Creating an Active Fantasy Life, It’s Okay to Be Butch, and “You’re Fucking Gay”

January 24th, 2014 • 2 minute read • by


Protected: The Threat of Folding In

January 22nd, 2014 • 2 minute read • by


Ask Mr. Sexsmith: Didn’t you mention a marketing or business ecourse recently?

January 8th, 2014 • 2 minute read • by


Resiliance and Rebuilding: 2013 in Books, Music, and Writings

January 6th, 2014 • 4 minute read • by


The Great Reader Mini-Interview, Part Seven: The Journey, Smut, and Black Tee Shirts

December 28th, 2013 • < 1 minute read • by


Masocast podcast features … me! Also: Fancy Package on #subplay!

December 23rd, 2013 • 3 minute read • by


eLust #53 includes my “Pick a Hole. You Know What Happens Next.”

December 17th, 2013 • 2 minute read • by