essays

This includes my personal understandings of gender theory, queer theory, BDSM theory, power theory, feminist theory, butch/femme dynamic and identity.

[Video] Sugar & Spice: Spicy Queer Kink Erotica Showcase

January 16th, 2024 • < 1 minute read • by

[Video] Spicy Showcase at Drunken! Careening! Writers!

January 16th, 2024 • < 1 minute read • by

[Video] Spicy Showcase at Smut Peddlers

January 16th, 2024 • < 1 minute read • by

“Positivity! Support! Honesty! Gusto!”: What People Say About the Writing Spicy Online Erotica Writing Group

September 27th, 2023 • 7 minute read • by

10 Days of Writing Spicy Prompts

September 14th, 2023 • < 1 minute read • by

Is Kink (Ever) Wholesome?

April 30th, 2022 • 3 minute read • by

Protected: How Are Daddy/boy and Daddy/girl Different?

April 30th, 2022 • 3 minute read • by

The Lineage & Ancestry of Queer Kinky Erotica

February 28th, 2022 • 3 minute read • by

On Developing A Writing Habit

February 15th, 2022 • 10 minute read • by

Some Core Writing Spicy Philosophies

February 5th, 2022 • 3 minute read • by

Write the Erotica You Want to Read In the World

January 31st, 2022 • 3 minute read • by

Three Ways to Improve Your Erotic Stories

January 27th, 2022 • 4 minute read • by

Poll: Which one of these erotica stories would you most want to read?

January 27th, 2022 • 2 minute read • by

Writing Erotica Is Activism: An Interview With Me on Erotica Writing

November 30th, 2021 • 5 minute read • by

The Relationship Smorgasbord

October 31st, 2021 • 2 minute read • by

Nonbinary Honorific Terms for a Dominant

September 30th, 2021 • < 1 minute read • by

Lex Isn’t Just For Dating, It’s Also For Tenderqueers (and Me, and Maybe You)

September 30th, 2021 • 3 minute read • by

Five Steps To Getting Your Erotica Published

August 31st, 2021 • 3 minute read • by

Five Great Kink Podcasts You Should Be Listening To Already

August 31st, 2021 • 2 minute read • by

D/s Protocol Ideas For You To Try

August 31st, 2021 • 3 minute read • by

How To Use Check Ins In Your D/s Relationship

August 1st, 2021 • 4 minute read • by

Tools For Stepping Up D/s

July 31st, 2021 • 6 minute read • by

Someone Else Writes Worse Erotica Than You, I Promise

June 30th, 2021 • < 1 minute read • by

Protected: The Aftermath

April 30th, 2021 • 5 minute read • by

Creating a D/s Training Wheel

April 30th, 2021 • 4 minute read • by

Fearless Relationship Inventory, Guest Post by rife

February 28th, 2021 • < 1 minute read • by

9 Ideas to Support Your D/s During Hard Times

February 27th, 2021 • 5 minute read • by

Is “Butch” A Nonbinary Identity?

October 31st, 2020 • 3 minute read • by

DIY: Create Your Own Fist Dildo

October 31st, 2020 • 3 minute read • by

Happy #InternationalPronounDay!

October 20th, 2020 • 2 minute read • by

This Is A Conversation About Duties: On M/s Language

August 29th, 2020 • 5 minute read • by

I’m Voting Biden/Harris, But I Still Want A Dyke For President

August 29th, 2020 • 4 minute read • by

The Impact of M/s Language: Voices from the Community

July 31st, 2020 • 4 minute read • by

On Representing the M/s Title

July 31st, 2020 • 4 minute read • by

On Stepping Away From M/s Language

July 24th, 2020 • 6 minute read • by

6 Black Educators to Follow & Support on Patreon

June 30th, 2020 • 2 minute read • by

Breath as a Healing Tool During COVID-19 with M’kali-Hashiki

June 30th, 2020 • 4 minute read • by

Some Notes That May Turn Into A Sex Manifesto

March 31st, 2020 • 3 minute read • by

“There Are Others Like You:” Interview with Rowdy, rife’s Puppy

February 18th, 2020 • 2 minute read • by

Ready to Make Waves: Two Recent Inspirational Leather Speeches

January 31st, 2020 • < 1 minute read • by

Resources For Sex & Chronic Pain

January 20th, 2020 • 2 minute read • by

Cartography of Control: A Map For Areas of Dominance & Submission

December 31st, 2019 • 3 minute read • by

No, You Don’t “Get” Racism Because You Are Oppressed, Too

November 27th, 2019 • 2 minute read • by

Five Essential Apps for Sex Bloggers

October 31st, 2019 • 4 minute read • by

Bi-Erasure, Community, and Other Thoughts on Bisexual Visibility Day

September 23rd, 2019 • 3 minute read • by

Protected: Writing About D/s Online

August 29th, 2019 • 4 minute read • by

What Are You Going To Do With That Women, Gender, Sexuality Studies Degree?

August 5th, 2019 • 3 minute read • by

Methods of Control in Your D/s Relationship: Defining Rules, Tasks, Protocol, and Ritual

July 24th, 2019 • 6 minute read • by

Decks, Books, & Spreads: Getting Started with a Tarot Practice

July 12th, 2019 • 6 minute read • by

Kinky Summer Camps You Should Definitely Attend

June 28th, 2019 • 5 minute read • by