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Is Kink (Ever) Wholesome?

April 30th, 2022 • 3 minute read • by

Protected: How Are Daddy/boy and Daddy/girl Different?

April 30th, 2022 • 3 minute read • by

Nonbinary Honorific Terms for a Dominant

September 30th, 2021 • < 1 minute read • by

Five Great Kink Podcasts You Should Be Listening To Already

August 31st, 2021 • 2 minute read • by

D/s Protocol Ideas For You To Try

August 31st, 2021 • 3 minute read • by

How To Use Check Ins In Your D/s Relationship

August 1st, 2021 • 4 minute read • by

Tools For Stepping Up D/s

July 31st, 2021 • 6 minute read • by

Creating a D/s Training Wheel

April 30th, 2021 • 4 minute read • by

DIY: Create Your Own Fist Dildo

October 31st, 2020 • 3 minute read • by

This Is A Conversation About Duties: On M/s Language

August 29th, 2020 • 5 minute read • by

Some Notes That May Turn Into A Sex Manifesto

March 31st, 2020 • 3 minute read • by

“There Are Others Like You:” Interview with Rowdy, rife’s Puppy

February 18th, 2020 • 2 minute read • by

Cartography of Control: A Map For Areas of Dominance & Submission

December 31st, 2019 • 3 minute read • by

Protected: Writing About D/s Online

August 29th, 2019 • 4 minute read • by

Methods of Control in Your D/s Relationship: Defining Rules, Tasks, Protocol, and Ritual

July 24th, 2019 • 6 minute read • by

Kinky Summer Camps You Should Definitely Attend

June 28th, 2019 • 5 minute read • by

Fundamentals of the Protocol Game

April 15th, 2019 • 3 minute read • by

The Outermost Bracket™: A Theory on D/s and Non-Monogamy

January 28th, 2019 • 6 minute read • by

Creating a Submissive Training Plan for Yourself

December 31st, 2018 • 4 minute read • by

You can be your strongest self AND a power bottom

September 17th, 2016 • 4 minute read • by

How I Became A Daddy

July 23rd, 2016 • 4 minute read • by

Introducing View From The Top: My BDSM Journey

February 5th, 2016 • 2 minute read • by

The Best Queer Sex Blogs

November 15th, 2015 • 3 minute read • by

“I found a sense of clarity about my path:” Interview with Shiris

August 26th, 2015 • 3 minute read • by

You’ll Never Find the Perfect Dominant

August 18th, 2015 • 3 minute read • by

Turn Your Rough Fantasies into Responsible Reality

December 29th, 2014 • 3 minute read • by

Follow your own Kinky Desire Map

December 18th, 2014 • 4 minute read • by

10 Tips for Tops

November 30th, 2014 • 7 minute read • by

The Four Stages of Topping

October 30th, 2014 • 8 minute read • by

Dear Tops: Say Thank You

October 25th, 2014 • 5 minute read • by

The Ten Sugarbutch Cock Commandments

September 26th, 2014 • 8 minute read • by

Do rough sex fantasies compromise your sex-positive ethics?

September 11th, 2014 • 5 minute read • by

Is psychological kink play “healthy”?

August 25th, 2014 • 3 minute read • by

Bored Kinkster Blues

June 30th, 2014 • 3 minute read • by

Free download: Submissive Starter Kit

June 27th, 2014 • 2 minute read • by

“I know I’m submissive. But where do I start?” aka “I just read Fifty Shades of Grey and I want THAT.”

June 26th, 2014 • 5 minute read • by

What you should know about privacy, secret identities, and kink communities

June 24th, 2014 • 8 minute read • by

Ask Mr. Sexsmith: I’m a sub, but my partner is not a dom. What do I do?

June 6th, 2014 • 4 minute read • by

Ask Mr. Sexsmith: I struggle with my feminist beliefs and my bedroom preferences … help!

April 18th, 2014 • 7 minute read • by

Ask Mr. Sexsmith: How Do I Use My Girlfriend for My Pleasure?

March 19th, 2014 • 6 minute read • by

To All the Tops Who Are Afraid to Make a Move

February 25th, 2014 • 6 minute read • by

How to Chomp: Erotic Biting for Pleasure & Pain

November 5th, 2013 • 10 minute read • by

Ask Mr. Sexsmith: What happens to the stuff on the anal toys when you boil them?

September 20th, 2013 • 2 minute read • by

Dominance & Power with Responsibility

June 24th, 2013 • 4 minute read • by

Protected: On Topping and Taking What I Want

November 1st, 2011 • 2 minute read • by

Ask Me Anything: What to Wear to a BDSM Weekend?

September 14th, 2011 • < 1 minute read • by

Ask Me Anything: Becoming More Dominant

October 6th, 2010 • 4 minute read • by

Get a Dominant to Dominate

July 13th, 2010 • < 1 minute read • by

Reconciling Feminism & Sadism

June 29th, 2010 • 6 minute read • by

BDSM is Not Abuse

June 12th, 2010 • 2 minute read • by