essays

This includes my personal understandings of gender theory, queer theory, BDSM theory, power theory, feminist theory, butch/femme dynamic and identity.

How do you get a dominant to dominate?

June 1st, 2009 • 2 minute read • by

Define: Unthought Known

May 22nd, 2009 • 2 minute read • by

Sadism, and the Study of Pain

May 7th, 2009 • 5 minute read • by

Let’s Get Gay Married!

May 6th, 2009 • 3 minute read • by

Answers to some questions

April 30th, 2009 • 4 minute read • by

What do you call your butch?

April 20th, 2009 • < 1 minute read • by

A Love Letter to Femmes

April 1st, 2009 • < 1 minute read • by

On Butch Eyebrows: waxed or natural?

March 31st, 2009 • < 1 minute read • by

On Butches: Coming Inside

March 5th, 2009 • 3 minute read • by

Save About Face Theatre

March 2nd, 2009 • 2 minute read • by

Important Calls for Support: Home Alive & Scarleteen

February 18th, 2009 • 5 minute read • by

Gendered Sources of Physical Power: Beauty vs Strength

February 15th, 2009 • 3 minute read • by

Define: The Do-Be-Do-Be-Do Complex

February 9th, 2009 • < 1 minute read • by

Sexual Autonomy & Freedom

January 23rd, 2009 • 4 minute read • by

Define: “butch in the streets, femme in the sheets”

December 26th, 2008 • < 1 minute read • by

Protected: letter to a friend

December 26th, 2008 • 2 minute read • by

Define: Courtly

December 8th, 2008 • 2 minute read • by

Define: Identity Alignment Assumptions

December 2nd, 2008 • < 1 minute read • by

A girl: my future wife

November 28th, 2008 • 3 minute read • by

Letter to myself: enough moping

November 7th, 2008 • 5 minute read • by

On Love, Post-Election

November 5th, 2008 • 7 minute read • by

Marriage is so gay*

October 24th, 2008 • 5 minute read • by

On Matthew Shepard, and Not Getting Eaten Alive

October 11th, 2008 • 4 minute read • by

On being a (gender) freak in New York City

October 8th, 2008 • 3 minute read • by

On Pronouns, Mine

September 16th, 2008 • 2 minute read • by

Define: Need a Word For Receiving Chivalry

September 10th, 2008 • < 1 minute read • by

Define: Cisgender

September 10th, 2008 • < 1 minute read • by

In Praise of Femmes: The Architecture of Identity

September 5th, 2008 • 5 minute read • by

Masculinity Depictions in Disney Films

September 2nd, 2008 • < 1 minute read • by

In Praise of Femmes: Hair & Shaving

August 28th, 2008 • 5 minute read • by

Define: Mutually Inclusive

August 28th, 2008 • < 1 minute read • by

On Butches: Hair

August 26th, 2008 • 4 minute read • by

The Suspension of Heterosexual Belief (1 of 3)

August 19th, 2008 • 5 minute read • by

The Difference Between Romance and Chivalry

August 11th, 2008 • 2 minute read • by

Define: Transmasculine

August 11th, 2008 • 3 minute read • by

Gender 101 (Excerpt)

August 8th, 2008 • 2 minute read • by

Choice feminism & compulsory gender roles

August 1st, 2008 • 10 minute read • by

Telling Her What to Wear

July 28th, 2008 • 3 minute read • by

On Butch Style: Briefs

July 23rd, 2008 • 3 minute read • by

Creating Conscious Gender

July 18th, 2008 • 7 minute read • by

Intentional vs ‘Natural’ Gender

July 7th, 2008 • 2 minute read • by

Lesbian stereotypes, reclaiming language, and activism

July 1st, 2008 • 5 minute read • by

More on Butch Bras

June 24th, 2008 • 2 minute read • by

On Butch Breasts, Binders, & Bras

June 24th, 2008 • 3 minute read • by

In Praise of Femmes: Trust

June 9th, 2008 • 4 minute read • by

Gender Frustrations and Clarifications

May 27th, 2008 • 3 minute read • by

On misperceiving someone as femme or butch (again)

May 8th, 2008 • 5 minute read • by

On misperceiving someone as femme or butch

May 8th, 2008 • 4 minute read • by

Sex Drive, Bed Death, & Dealbreakers

May 6th, 2008 • < 1 minute read • by

Lesbian bed death, Butch/femme dating, and More Femme Worship (Plus Q&A)

May 1st, 2008 • 8 minute read • by