Reduced to Expletives (Asher & Jesse #3)
Turns out, Jesse is a natural. Topping comes to her like all the skills are downloaded right into her brain, like she is in a…
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The Four Stages of Topping
When I started topping, I was self-conscious, nervous, easily crushed, and full of bravado and swagger. (I’d like to think that all of that was…
The Ten Sugarbutch Cock Commandments
I’ve been teaching strap-on workshops for about six years now, and I’ve been strapping on for about fifteen. I also coach people to have more…
The Sugarbutch Guide to Cock Confidence: Soft Packing (Part 2)
What do I pack with? Just about anything can be packed into your briefs and worn as a packer, but fear not! Plenty of queer…
March Book Roundup: Sex, sex, and more sex
It’s been a review and work month for books, but I’m still eager to keep finding those titles that are breezy-easy reads, that engage me…
It’s Valentine’s Day, so here’s some Desert Island Toys
It’s Valentine’s Day this week! You didn’t forget it, did you? Well, you’re lucky—if you place an order before noon on Wednesday, they’ll upgrade your…
Past Events
Want to book me? Check out the information on my workshops here. [gigpress_archive] 2010: Friday, February 19, 2010 Lesbian Sex Mafia Gendering Power: How to…
Resiliance and Rebuilding: 2013 in Books, Music, and Writings
Top Writings on Sugarbutch from 2013 In order, from most read to least, these are the writings on Sugarbutch from 2013. Which were your favorites?…
Review: Bondage cuff and bow tie by Rand Leather
Rand Leather (on etsy or on follow on tumblr) is a one-man-show out of Maine where Matthias Rand makes all kinds of leather goods from…
Five Blow Jobs
I. After the workshop. I haven’t had enough of you (will I ever get enough of you) and strip you bare, glove my hand, slide…
Hey Seattle: Strap On Skills, Dirty Talk, Leaving Marks Workshops in January
Just come. Advanced Strap On Skills Thursday, January 17, 8-10pm Wild at Heart, Ballard $20/Individual, $30/Pair, $40/Triad Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/events/140978136049188/ Fetlife: https://fetlife.com/events/139379 Know how to strap…
Review: Lelo Tiani 2
Lelo sent me the Tiani 2 vibrator to explore with over the summer (quite a long time ago, I admit) and I am finally getting…
Dirty Queer Sex Tour: Toronto on October 9th at Glad Day Bookshop
You are invited to … A night of DIRTY QUEER SEX! Tuesday, October 9th, 8pm Glad Day Bookshop 598 Yonge St, Toronto, Ontario M4Y1Z3 RSVP…
Unholy Harvest, Say Please Reading (Readers Needed!), & Bad Boys in Toronto
I’m going to Toronto! I’m still working out the exact dates, but it looks like Kristen and I will be there October 5-10. I’ll be…
Dirty Filthy Nasty
This story contains Daddy/girl language, rough sex, and lots of body fluids. This has been your trigger warning. “Will you pause it for a minute?…
You’re Invited to (Kinky) Summer Camp 2012
So you’ve heard about Summer Camp, or at least, about how I met the boy there. And you heard about what happened at Fusion this…
Review: TranZwear Packing Undies
TranZwear sent me three different packing undies—their most popular models—to check out: two different models of boxers, and one jock strap type. TranZwear alters already…
Chicago! Fucking Forever, Dirty Queer Sex Reading, and Cock Confidence This Week
I kind of suck at blogging lately. I have been doing all these offline things—events, trainings, readings, workshops, traveling. Tons of marketing and promotion, very…
The Three Minute Game
Warning: This story contains some references to Daddy/girl, because that is what we usually call each other while playing. The story before the cut is…
Happy 6th Anniversary, Sugarbutch!
Sugarbutch turned 6 years old on Sunday, April 29th. It was in 2006 at a corporate office job I’d just started, after obsessively reading every…
Review: Double Agent Dildo
As of 7/28/15 This product is no longer available at Babeland I kind of hate the word “dildo.” But I didn’t let that stop me…
I Confess: Favorite Music from 2011
This week, my horoscope said: “You are likely to thrive to the degree that you precisely identify and vigorously harness your obsessions. Please note I’m…
Handprints on the Hotel Window
Kristen and I spent the weekend in Chicago, in part to attend a concert, and in part because tomorrow, December 13th, is our third anniversary….
The Sugarbutch 2012 Holiday Gift Guide
Here it is! The sixth annual holiday gift guide for those of you who need some inspiration for the holidays. You’d be surprised how many…
Review: Comparing Two Ejaculating Cocks
I have a confession to make: I like dirty sex. I mean, you probably already knew that. And by dirty I mean … body fluids….
The Boy at Summer Camp
It started with an email with the subject line “butch at your service,” and an offer for a blow job. And I thought, hm. Well,…
Review: The Tantus Realdoe
I’ve had a Tantus Feeldoe in my toy box for a few years now, and aside from reviewing it, I almost never get it out….
Cock Confidence, Owning Your Birthday Suit, & More Workshops in the Bay Area Next Week
I’m just starting to feel like I’ve returned from the Pulse retreat, finally, in body, mind, emotional landscape, and spirit, when now I am leaving…
Ask Me Anything: Strapping On For the First Time
ExperimentallyCurious asked: What was your first time strapping like? What advice do you have for strap-on virgins? My butch just placed the online order for…
Cock Confidence: How Not To Slip Out When Strapped On
MSE asked: Like Tuesday, I also have a question about strap-on sex. Whenever my girl and I use a strap-on, the cock always falls out…
Babeland’s New Gender Expression Category
Babeland has launched a Gender Expression category! Which includes products for packing, dildos for strapping on, harnesses, accessories like chest binders and stand-to-pee devices, and…
What’s Happening in March
It’s March! And it’s almost spring! I’m hoping with that will come increasingly easy months of light and play, and less struggle and coldness, which…
Good Girl, Bad Girl (Part Two)
WARNING: This story contains Daddy/girl play (and dirty talk). Read Part I. Part II. She is a bad girl. There is very specific protocol if…
Daddi Dice: Mini-Interview
“If I could tell my younger self about sex, sexuality, or gender I would let myself know that it’s okay to be the way I am. When I grow up there will be others like me if I would just open my eyes.”
The Sugarbutch Guide to Cock Confidence: Pack & Play
See also: My Packing Cocks 101 on Sugarbutch Speaking of pack & play cocks: There just aren’t very many available right now. The technology that…
Extra Sexy Valentine’s Day Gift Guide
So Babeland did this sweet Valentine’s Day gift guide, and it got me thinking about what sexy toys and gifts I would highly, highly recommend,…
Review: Tantus VIP Super Soft
I haven’t been reviewing many products lately, on purpose. I’m getting a little bored reviewing products. Don’t get me wrong, I’m grateful to have the…
Gabrielle, Guest Star
It is always different to fuck somebody new. New skin, new lips, new way she kisses, new way she writhes, new way she comes. I…
What happened at the BUTCH Voices NYC Conference
So BUTCH Voices NYC is over … And it was fantastic. I want to tell you all about it, and I barely know where to…
The Butch Voices NYC Conference Starts Today!
The Butch Voices NYC Regional Conference is almost here! The conference itself is tomorrow, Saturday the 25th, with registration opening up at 9am and workshops…
Review: Talula
This is the Talula softskin dildo by the new company Vamp Silicone, who generously sent me two different cocks to review. Shape:Doesn’t it look like…
Cock Confidence: Spur by Vixen Creations (Review)
It’s been a while since I’ve written a review of a cock! The Silk, since it’s so non-realistic, doesn’t quite feel the same as something…
Oh Hello, City of Roses
It’s a perfect temperature here in Portland, which means, yay, that button-down and tie I brought for my workshops tonight and tomorrow are going to…
Classes in Portland, OR in Late July
I’ll be heading to the lovely City of Roses in late July, and I’ll be teaching two different classes on July 21st & 22nd at…
I’ve Returned From the Rainy Pacific Northwest!
I’m back in Brooklyn after a ten-day adventure in the Pacific Northwest. It might be the longest trip I’ve ever taken, aside from that semester…
Review: Deluxe Packing Pouch
As of 2/8/16 This product is no longer available at Babeland “Excuse me, could you pass me my penis?” This is something NOBODY wants to…
Review: The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex For Women (Book)
One of the first things I procured when Kristen and I decided to undergo an anal sex educational adventure was Tristan Taormino’s book The Ultimate…
So What’s Next?: McMillen’s Fake Prom
While I was kind of slow to follow the story, mostly because I thought, okay, wrong-doing that has made national news, clearly everybody else is…
Review: The Njoy Fun Wand
Let’s have a review, shall we? I’m way behind on product reviews, I have a list and it kinda just keeps getting longer. I’m moving…
Desperation & Dominance
“Want to know what I was thinking about when I got off yesterday?” she asks. We’re lying in bed, tangled limbs and sheets, a little…